Why don't they deserve it?
Is it best for both of you or just best for you? Based on the "do you have any idea what I've been through" I'm assuming the latter.
If they've done nothing wrong why take it out on them and your son? Keeping him from them if they've personally haven't done a thing to him is bitter. Any issues with you and the father are just that, issues between y'all.
It'd be understandable if it was an in and out issue with them but based on your caption they've been trying to maintain a relationship.
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I don't generally get involved in ppls personal "stuff", but for what it's worth (from someone who had dealt with similar), I think you're doing an amazing job as a mother and human being by protecting both your son and yourself from that family. How do you know they won't try to kidnap him again or try to poison your son with toxic thoughts of you? Honestly, hold your ground. Side note, not a creeper, promise 😂, but I wanted to congratulate you on your graduation from college. After reading about the drama you've dealt with, you're overcome everything and did an amazing job. Law school in the future?☺️ Congratulations!
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Thank you! My son truly is the light in the darkness of it all. Without him I don’t know where the trauma would’ve lead me.
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I would absolutely be after another restraining order for them and also your son's father. That's insane and I wouldn't be taking any chances. Absolutely not. They had the chance to handle things as caring adults should have when their son decided to hurt you. You were young, pregnant and terrified. F these people.
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Why don't they deserve it?
Is it best for both of you or just best for you? Based on the "do you have any idea what I've been through" I'm assuming the latter.
If they've done nothing wrong why take it out on them and your son? Keeping him from them if they've personally haven't done a thing to him is bitter. Any issues with you and the father are just that, issues between y'all.
It'd be understandable if it was an in and out issue with them but based on your caption they've been trying to maintain a relationship.
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@lanastillwater I just saw it. Just block them. They're hella toxic and it's definitely better to just get them out now.
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@beetlejuice_beetlejuice_beetlejuice, ive been fighting to keep them away for years. Ill keep doing it to protect my son, but it’d be nice if the legal system would work with me to get another restraining order. i consider myself lucky that i was able to get him convicted but they only gave him 5 years and he didn’t even serve half of it, and they haven’t done anything for me since 🤦🏼♀️
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@lanastillwater the justice system regarding sexual assaults is FUCKED. You're dragged if you report and pursue. You're dragged if you don't pursue.
I always believe that parents/grandparents deserve to see their kids/grandkids within reason. But the whole situation is insanely fucked and I'd keep them away as well.
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jennatess
Are they abusive or something? What’s the story here.
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lanastillwater
i put a backstory a few comments up^
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@lanastillwater, good god.
If you can, I’d get a new number completely. Even if they took you to court for grandparents rights, they wouldn’t have a leg to stand on.
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@jennatess, I might just have to. It just sucks because there’s so many things I’d have to change my contact information for 😩 I just keep hoping that they’ll stop. They did try to get grandparent visitation rights, but it never made it past the first meeting with the judge when I brought my handy dandy file of all the police reports and court records.
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I think the bigger question is, how do you have 33 unread text messages?
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@lanastillwater, oh no! Can’t you turn that off in settings? I turned mine off I think. I hope?!? Sorry about bullshit drama though.
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@ltee, you can but i have certain friends that requested them, it’s like a milestone in a friendship to turn them on for certain people 😂 so i only open texts for them when i feel like it.
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@lanastillwater, whoa! I’ve never heard of such craziness! I bet you just read the messages in your notifications 🤣
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Block Them 🤷🏼♀️
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They come back every month with a new number, ive blocked them at least 15 times now 🤦🏼♀️
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@lanastillwater, lmao Might have to change the number
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Is that his grandparents on his fathers side?
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@kx2girlmommy, it’s a long and complicated backstory so ill try to make a short version: their son (17 at the time) raped me (14 at the time) leading to my sons conception. they tried to force me into an abortion, made appointments for me that i didn’t want, told everyone i was lying, spread rumors about me, all while i was trying to get their son convicted. when it became too late for an abortion, they started trying to fight to get custody of the baby (obviously never would’ve worked, and didn’t). which lead to his mom attempting to kidnap him when he was a month old (couldn’t get the door broken down lmao) she denies it, but she had a brand new car seat when she showed up in the middle of the night, the police called it a domestic disturbance and let it go. i got a restraining order but it only lasted for a year, i haven’t successfully been able to obtain another one. she still refuses to admit that he raped me, he got out of jail after 2 years and now he lives with them. so yeah, i don’t want contact and i don’t trust them.
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Why don't they deserve it?
Is it best for both of you or just best for you? Based on the "do you have any idea what I've been through" I'm assuming the latter.
If they've done nothing wrong why take it out on them and your son? Keeping him from them if they've personally haven't done a thing to him is bitter. Any issues with you and the father are just that, issues between y'all.
It'd be understandable if it was an in and out issue with them but based on your caption they've been trying to maintain a relationship.
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I don't generally get involved in ppls personal "stuff", but for what it's worth (from someone who had dealt with similar), I think you're doing an amazing job as a mother and human being by protecting both your son and yourself from that family. How do you know they won't try to kidnap him again or try to poison your son with toxic thoughts of you? Honestly, hold your ground. Side note, not a creeper, promise 😂, but I wanted to congratulate you on your graduation from college. After reading about the drama you've dealt with, you're overcome everything and did an amazing job. Law school in the future?☺️ Congratulations!
Thank you! My son truly is the light in the darkness of it all. Without him I don’t know where the trauma would’ve lead me.
I would absolutely be after another restraining order for them and also your son's father. That's insane and I wouldn't be taking any chances. Absolutely not. They had the chance to handle things as caring adults should have when their son decided to hurt you. You were young, pregnant and terrified. F these people.
Why don't they deserve it?
Is it best for both of you or just best for you? Based on the "do you have any idea what I've been through" I'm assuming the latter.
If they've done nothing wrong why take it out on them and your son? Keeping him from them if they've personally haven't done a thing to him is bitter. Any issues with you and the father are just that, issues between y'all.
It'd be understandable if it was an in and out issue with them but based on your caption they've been trying to maintain a relationship.
@lanastillwater I just saw it. Just block them. They're hella toxic and it's definitely better to just get them out now.
@beetlejuice_beetlejuice_beetlejuice, ive been fighting to keep them away for years. Ill keep doing it to protect my son, but it’d be nice if the legal system would work with me to get another restraining order. i consider myself lucky that i was able to get him convicted but they only gave him 5 years and he didn’t even serve half of it, and they haven’t done anything for me since 🤦🏼♀️
@lanastillwater the justice system regarding sexual assaults is FUCKED. You're dragged if you report and pursue. You're dragged if you don't pursue.
I always believe that parents/grandparents deserve to see their kids/grandkids within reason. But the whole situation is insanely fucked and I'd keep them away as well.
Are they abusive or something? What’s the story here.
i put a backstory a few comments up^
@lanastillwater, good god.
If you can, I’d get a new number completely. Even if they took you to court for grandparents rights, they wouldn’t have a leg to stand on.
@jennatess, I might just have to. It just sucks because there’s so many things I’d have to change my contact information for 😩 I just keep hoping that they’ll stop. They did try to get grandparent visitation rights, but it never made it past the first meeting with the judge when I brought my handy dandy file of all the police reports and court records.
I think the bigger question is, how do you have 33 unread text messages?
@lanastillwater, oh no! Can’t you turn that off in settings? I turned mine off I think. I hope?!? Sorry about bullshit drama though.
@ltee, you can but i have certain friends that requested them, it’s like a milestone in a friendship to turn them on for certain people 😂 so i only open texts for them when i feel like it.
@lanastillwater, whoa! I’ve never heard of such craziness! I bet you just read the messages in your notifications 🤣
Block Them 🤷🏼♀️
They come back every month with a new number, ive blocked them at least 15 times now 🤦🏼♀️
@lanastillwater, lmao Might have to change the number
Is that his grandparents on his fathers side?
@kx2girlmommy, it’s a long and complicated backstory so ill try to make a short version: their son (17 at the time) raped me (14 at the time) leading to my sons conception. they tried to force me into an abortion, made appointments for me that i didn’t want, told everyone i was lying, spread rumors about me, all while i was trying to get their son convicted. when it became too late for an abortion, they started trying to fight to get custody of the baby (obviously never would’ve worked, and didn’t). which lead to his mom attempting to kidnap him when he was a month old (couldn’t get the door broken down lmao) she denies it, but she had a brand new car seat when she showed up in the middle of the night, the police called it a domestic disturbance and let it go. i got a restraining order but it only lasted for a year, i haven’t successfully been able to obtain another one. she still refuses to admit that he raped me, he got out of jail after 2 years and now he lives with them. so yeah, i don’t want contact and i don’t trust them.
@lanastillwater, yikes 😳
@kx2girlmommy, yup 🙃 big ole shit show