We haven't slept in the same bed since January actually. And I haven't been able to get a job so right now he's the only one working to pay for everything. All of my family and friends have said they will not or can not help me in any way and I can't find a job that would even give me a chance at making anything more than minimum wage and that isn't enough to even cover childcare out here. And I can't qualify for any childcare assistance programs because he makes to much and the programs are all on a long waiting list right now as well so even if I did get a minimum wage job and file divorce and try for the childcare program, I would have to pay the daycare the full amount until I get the assistance program. I've already talked to all of the daycares out here about it. So for now my daughters and I sleep in one room and he has the master bedroom all to himself!

@kaytibug2009, I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be. Your gonna HAVE to do something drastic to get outta this situation, this is too much for anyone. Your "husband" is a disgusting human being. He's using all of the reasons you listed above to keep you trapped and tormented! I know you can't really right now, cause shit's crazy, but the FIRST opportunity you have when he's at work, pack as much shit as you can carry, get your babies and go to a women's shelter. They will help you with all that and be able to get through all the red tape a lot easier and quicker than you can on your own. It WILL be hard but how easy is your life right now anyway?? You're miserable, treated like a dog, he couldn't care less about his own children.... WHEN is it gonna be enough?? At LEAST you'd be happy and free. It's time to get in the trenches Mama, down and dirty to do whatever you gotta do to MAKE life better for you and your girls. He won't give it to you...FUCK HIM! There's ALWAYS gonna be a reason why it's not easy to leave. SHOW his stupid ass, excuse for a human, lil wannabe man that you don't need him to have a good life. Prove him wrong.

Yes my husband.

@kaytibug2009, I wasn’t sure if you were talking about him or moms who say things like that. What’s why I asked. But that’s how most men are 🙄 my SO does take care of the kids but I feel like if I have to ask him instead of telling him since they are his kids too.

@kaytibug2009, mostly with my daughter. He does take more care of my stepson but I feel like because his baby momma doesn’t really take care of him but either way I feel like he should help with both. Sometimes I don’t even know if I should ask him for help he says he has to help because that’s his daughter but idk I take more care of her then him.