For my son: giving him options or a different solution and being consistent with it. It’s one or the other, not both. That way he can feel like he’s “in charge”. Positive reinforcement helped a lot. My son was so hard to deal with before I couldn’t take him literally anywhere. And now I can. Consistency.

I completely understand! My son can be so naughty. I give him positive reinforcements. He’s very smart. He understand but he is still mean to his sister. I try to not get to worked up and continue to tell him no. He’s gotten better over the years but it’s still bad. Like don’t be mean why is that so hard. He learns other things so quickly but not this!

YOU should seek help if you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Children this young are feeding off of your emotions and acting out as a result. Previous poster is right. Physical punishment will do nothing except make them more anxious and fear you. Give them consequences to their behavior. Time out for each minute of their age. Eventually (around a month or more) they will understand that negative behavior will result in time outs and avoid that behavior. Also positive reinforcement is crucial at this age. No one wants to constantly be yelled at and told what they're doing wrong including children. Take a deep breath and just walk away sometimes. The biggest thing I learned when my daughter was this age was to pick my battles. Some days as long as no one is getting hurt it's not worth the fight. Also realize that if you aren't giving them one on one time they may be acting out just to get your attention. Even negative attention is worth it to a toddler. Good luck momma! Things will get better

Well first of all, yelling at and slapping children, especially children that young, isn’t going to do anything but make them scared of you and anxious. They are toddlers, they don’t understand boundaries yet, they’re learning how to behave and you have to set examples for them, be consistent and speak to them in words they understand.