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Does your man fight with you and yell at you and then later on ask to have sex? Do you do it? Do you feel guilty if you reject him? Do you want him to apologize first? Or do you consider the sex a makeup/apology? Is it wrong to withhold because you are hurt and upset by the way he treated you?
This isn't relevant to the post but we aren't even together. We still live together for financial reasons. We've been broken up like a year but continue to have sex. That in and of itself is probably stupid. Neither one of us wants to sleep with someone else I guess but its confusing for me.
He's pretty unemotional about it but for me its hard. I think he was trying to makeup from this morning but its hard to tell. He's not very nice to me and I'm only here to wait for my tax return and get a second job to move out.
I still love him but he's told me over and over we aren't getting back together and he doesn't love me. I used to feel that if we were still having sex, we are still connected, and still have a chance of healing but the way he talks to and treats me in the interim just sucks.
ETA I know it seems like hes using me fir sex but if that's the case I'm using him for sex too.
Melissa ·
Мама двоих (1 год, 4 года)
I know it sounds pathetic but I still love him. Still miss him Still want him.
BakingDaddy ·
I won't do makeup sex. If I'm pissed off, he won't even try because it will just piss me off more. If it's something petty, that's a different story.
I do also think you should stop the sex. Not because of using each other, but because of the feelings you have and the lack of feelings from him. In the end you will just hurt more because of it.
Linden·
No he doesn't. If I'm mad or hurt about somethin, there's NO WAY I can have sex with him and look at his stupid face. (I do NOT really think my husband has a stupid face, I love him DEARLY, but if I'm mad at him I do!! Lol!) He knows this and wouldn't even come at me like that til we talked bout it or fixed it.
This is definitely not a healthy relationship girl and you, and your babies, deserve SO much better. You know this. Quit sleeping with him.
Little Mommy ··
Agree with all of this
Bye·
This guy is using you for your body. You stick around for money and hopes of his love and he sticks around for the sex. Do not have sex with him. If there’s something bothering me and my husband wants to have sex I make sure we talk about it first or I don’t want to. “Makeup sex” can be after the apologies but not instead of. Don’t let yourself be treated like trash or used for pleasure. You’re valuable and worth more than his disrespect anger and unkindness.
Melissa ··
Мама двоих (1 год, 4 года)
Not really sticking around for money. Just haven't been able to afford to move out yet. I do think its kinda using but most of the time if I ask him for sex he'll do it so really we use each other for sex
Angi Kay·
Мама дочки (1 год)
If I'm upset or hurt about something that stemmed from an argument between tim and I, I definitely wouldn't have sex with him. I wouldn't be able to, hes the same way as I am.
Marie·
My husband says he gets aroused when we argue or mad .🤷🏻♀️ not me
kate·
Мама сына (2 года)
Make up sex considered forgiven but depends what he did is it something that you can wake up tomorrow and still be hurt about it or is it something small and not of importance if you think you can wake up and think we just faught over something stupid that means he wants to apologies but if its serious dont give him anything
The EK 💋·
There is nothing wrong with withholding sex until he apologizes for his behavior. It is important for people to acknowledge when they’ve behaved in a way that was wrong. Don’t feel like you deserve nothing less than respect.
KLove··
Agree with @ekko absolutely 100%
I’m very in tune with my body and my emotions and if you hurt my heart, my vagina isn’t going to be on his side 🤷🏽♀️