I'm gonna vent real quick... we're probably going to have to cancel our vacation yet again this year…
I'm gonna vent real quick... we're probably going to have to cancel our vacation yet again this year just like we had to last year. My mother is supposed to watch the boys but she acts like it's such an inconvenience... we haven't had a break from being parents in way too long and it's important for couples to have some time away together. Judge me if you want, I really don't care.. but it's not like we would have even been gone long, just a couple days... but my mother acts like it's such an issue because we would be taking up most of her february break from work. It's not even like we ask her to watch them much at all and she sees them maybe once a week... so I honestly feel like she has all this time so why not just give up a couple days so your daughter can feel like a person again for just a couple days... I know she has her own life and plans and I get it but its only a couple days...
callatelaboca·
I get what you're saying but you can't depend on anyone but yourself, especially your mom because at the end of the day she does have the right to have her time and refuse if she wants to.maybe you guy's could do something local? like for a few hours
Harley Quinn ·
I agree with @itsmely,
She has a right to say she doesn’t want to watch them cause they aren’t her kids. I get you guys want alone time and a break from the children... but you’re also a mom. It comes with the territory of not getting a break. I’m sure you guys can come to a compromise, but take her feelings into consideration - seeing her grandkids once a week is way more than more kids get to see their grandparents.
The EK 💋·
It’s not anyone else’s responsibility to watch your kids because you want a few days away. That’s not meant to sound harsh... just stating the reality of being a parent.
Allyson Almeda··
I know the reality of being a parent, I've been one now for 4 years just about and in those 4 years I've only asked her a handful of times to watch the kids for a night or 2 and it's very rare even now that I ask for a break...
Leah·
Maybe just have an overnight vacation. I totally get wanting a break, but it's definitely a lot to expect someone to watch your kids multiple days in a row.
Allyson Almeda··
We're looking into something more local now, that way it's only a night or 2 which she has no issue with
Linden·
Couples TOTALLY need them time but you GOTTA line up the childcare WAY prior, like prior to ya'll even deciding where you want to go. You let them know the time frame you're lookin at and see if that could work for THEM. Remember their doin YOU a favor. She's not in the wrong. It's not her responsibility to take care of your children while you vacation. It would be NICE but she's not obligated, by ANY means!
Allyson Almeda··
We talked to her about it last month... so it would be 2 months ahead of time that she knew about it and we already had a time frame idea then... its just that we were going to drive down which is an 18 hour drive and that would add 2 extra nights to them being there
Your Worst Nightmare 😘·
Don’t even involve her find someone else plus there’s a million other ways to connect even if there are kids there
ErikaK·
I totally see where you're coming from. Sure, they aren't her kids, but you are! Your mom also made a committment when she had kids, and that happens to involve grandkids. Not saying she HAS to watch your kids, but as a mom, she should get that you guys need a few days to yourselves. That being said though, I'm sure we all have issues with our parents one way or another. They're only human.
Allyson Almeda··
Yeah I know, I told her we cancelled and she was a little upset because she wasn't trying to complain but it just seems like it's an inconvenience to her. Like I said I dont even really ask her to watch them often at all, we always try to do things that involve the kids all the time because that's just how it is being parents. Just every now and then when I really need someone to watch them just for a night or 2 for a small break, I know I can trust my mother... but we did change our destination to NYC and although it's not the warm vacay I wanted, it'll still be nice and it's a lot closer