Tell him he either chooses that life or his children cause he ain’t getting both. You wanna continue going back to jail, bye. My kids don’t need that. But if you’re gonna dedicate yourself to your children, then by all means we will forget the past because the kids deserve a relationship with their father especially if he was trying to change for the better. But if he wants to be involved in crime and tons of bad things, then he don’t need to be around. They’d be better off not having the hurt of daddy being here and now all of a sudden he isn’t again.
@manda_5times, yeah then I wouldn’t blame you one bit if you cut him out entirely. Someone like that is gonna be a negative influence at this point, your husband is the real father figure and man he needs in his life to be looking up to on how to be a man. That’s such a tough spot to be in though, I’m so sorry you and your son have to deal with it.
Get full custody through the court to not deal with unhealthy relationships with your child’s father. This behavior will do more harm than good to the child’s development.
Everytime buddy goes it's like he dies . Then comes back to life then dies again . Everytime they grieve that loss that void . Eventually it gets easier on the child and he gets a little stronger on the fact that that parent is absent then . All of a sudden hes given some time then left again to grieve . Every single time this happen it steals a little piece of your childs heart ... I would say no . Never again !!!!
I wouldnt allow it . Children need stability. It hurts a child to have to try and get over being hurt from being abandoned by a parent . It's hard on them . When they do get to see them after months or even years sometimes . Then that parent ends up not being around they have to start the healing and missing process over again .also if its cause buddy getting incarcerated he isnt good role model or even grown enough to think before he acts . Think about not being able to see ur children and not do illegal shit . Fuck I'd like to jump a few people who did me wrong . What stops me is my children and fear of not being able to help them grow for even a day ... I dont fucking think so . Buddy didnt think of the childrens feelings . So I dont care about his feelings ... eff that :)
Been there I got child support and moved out of state not even gonna put them threw that anymore blocked them on everything changed my number if there serious they will get attorneys