Alright. So I'm to my witts end. Idk what to do.
So we have a mutual friend staying with us. Who has a 9 year old daughter.
Well He moved in to save money. So we agreed on a price for rent which was more then half off of what he was paying plus utilities are included along with wifi, etc.
Well this guy has NO other bills to pay but somehow is always broke. He has been borrowing money from me and says oh I'll pay it back on this date. Well that date comes and goes and no money. So I ask him about it and he gets pissy. Saying he hasn't been paid yet, bank acct hasn't cleared etc. Which I think is crap cuz it's a Direct deposit from the same place every week for the same amount. Moving on, there's times where he hasn't had food for his daughter when she has been here so he asks can I borrow a box of cereal or a thing of hamburger whatever. And states he will replace it . Well hasn't done that either. But I'm not going to say No because I don't want a child going hungry.
They have been here 3 months now and this happens constantly.
My husband also pointed out to me how They haven't asked for any TP. And says it's always empty when he goes in there (they have their own bathroom that we use occasionally) so I thought we'll maybe they use there own? No. Cuz there's none in there and they always walk in the bathroom empty handed.
And in the morning before the roomate leaves for work there's usually Poop in the toilet from him not flushing and NO TP!!!!
I'm really starting to worry about his daughters well being.
He also just went on Vacation around Thanksgiving without her shipped her off to her moms. And was telling me how much money he spent and how he went to the casino and strip club etc. But can't budget for when his daughter is with him so he can feed her.
Last night he Took more of our food without asking but was cooking at 1130pm and again at 230am he also does laundry at those times too and the washer shakes my whole house cuz I live in a trailer and it wakes up not only myself but my 2.5 year old.
He always comes home with Biggby and I know that's not cheap. He told me his drink alone is like $7.50 with all the extra crap he orders in it. Well why order coffee when you can use that money to get your daughter food?
He also doesn't pay extra for her to be here . Which is fine. But her room is what we were using for storage and we're forced to move our stuff into a storage unit so she had her own room. He agreed to pay for the storage unit, but again doesn't budget it into anything. So it's due on the 1st and on the 10th he told me he still hasn't paid it. Like that's MY stuff in storage and I CANT loose it. I tell him he needs to pay it and says oh well I'll just pay the late fee.
But has had zero contact with the owner of the unit. And been ignoring his texts. According to the lease he signed with them if he doesn't pay by the 5th he gets locked out of the gate. And then if it's not paid by the 20th? Then they will put a lein on the unit. So I've been freaking out about that.
Idk. Guess I just had to rant. Idk what to do. If I talk to him in person then he will act like the conversation never happened in a week.
But if I message him or text him he gets all pissy and blows up my phone
Kick him out, pay the storage and put the stuff back into your spare room.
Pay the unit. He has to go. Put all his stuff outside and change the locks. If he’s been getting mail there then he is a resident and does have rights. So you may have to evict him. Cut ties ASAP. It’ll only get worse and your going to be sucked in with guilt.
Change your locks or you will have to get a evection notice cops won’t do shit that’s why you don’t feel sorry for ppl not your problem anymore ppl put there selfs in that position throw his shit out or he will just keep up the act 💯💯
Honey you need to lay down the law with that deadbeat.
Give him a date for him to pay up and stick to it. If he tries to blow you off again then throw this ass out. It doesn't matter if he gets pissy.. he's a fucking douche.
A real friend wouldn't treat you the way he's treating you.
He can go right ahead and get pissy then cause I’d SNAP. This is MY house that I’m allowing you to stay with your child so if you can’t be a decent adult and pull your weight and wanna cause me extra stress then BYE. I’d tell him his kid could stay but he can go. Which I’m sure that’s a lot because I know we can’t exactly afford to add another child right now but I’d do it just because it doesn’t sound like she’s got a very good life with him. Especially the hygiene situation with the bathroom. If he wants to be disgusting and not wipe then fine, do you bro. But his daughter should damn sure not have to live like that. It’s not healthy at all especially being female. You’re an awesome person for letting them move in and helping out, even if he doesn’t see that and thinks your a bitch for kicking him out or putting your foot down eventually. People like him don’t deserve friends like you honestly. But like I said, I’d be snapping making it crystal clear he’s gonna get his shit together or he’s gonna go.
Yep he needs to leave. You might as well pay for the unit yourself and get your stuff out asap before you loose it. Is he on drugs? Look up your state laws and make sure you don't have to evict him. If you don't call the cops and set up a time for him to get lost.
Call the Law and have Him remove! As Far as His daughter, call Her mother, explain the situation to her, have her pick up her child..if not call the hotline of Child Protective Services. I understand this is all a bit extreme it may sound like but that Man is NASTY and Something needs to change or He just has to go. I don't like it when You help someone out and they take advantage of You. I deal with that with My Sister and Her Husband and they don't even live with Me let alone not even in the same state
Make him leave. Seriously. He has the money and is dicking you around because he knows he can get away with it. He needs to go.
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need suggestions....
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