So not only did my ex decide he didn't want to see his daughter anymore, he also didn't pick Noah up on Friday and now is saying he's not going to pick him up tommorow (meant to be taking him to centre parks)
He's also decided that he'll get Noah when he wants...
Why do my kids have to suffer because his life's a mess?
Over 2 weeks he's not seen Noah, I'm getting asked every single day when is daddy coming, I want daddy and I can't even say anything. He was super excited for tommorow, bags packed and now I've got to tell him he's not going and he'll see him another day 😫
So glad he has nursery tommorow to distract him for a bit.
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Cut contact completely if he’s going to mess around. They will be effected more by him constantly letting them down than if he wasn’t around at all xx
Some men do not deserve the label of Daddy. I have 2 of them (yes I'm going to hell lol.) As long as they have their mummy, they'll be fine. Keep your chin up xxx
They really do not! Yeah atleast they have us that will never let them down xx
It's such a tough situation to be in... My mam was in the same situation with my father. He was in and out of my life like a yo-yo. My mam said it was the hardest thing ever seeing my heart break every week when he let me down. Thing is if you cut contact then you're the bad guy! The best thing my mother ever did is let me find out what he was like for myself
It breaks my heart so much! And I've said this to my ex that Noah will find out himself what he's like.
I'm just sick of him choosing everything else over his kids, I'm just glad violet will never have to feel the way Noah is feeling. Extra cuddles and maybe a few days out might take his mind off things I think x
@abbiiqx I've been Noah before... Sat on the wall waiting for my father to turn up. When he did actually turn up I'd spend my weekend sat there with nothing to do while he was with his latest girlfriend. I've also been the child whos father doesn't turn up and then I see him the same day walking through town with someone else's kids, playing happy and him completely blanking me.
And yeah I agree it can be damaging, it could ruin your adult life. If you let it. My mother raised a resilient human, that's what you have to do. Make him see he's the most precious thing in the world. Never tell him his dad is coming for him until he turns up, that way he can't be let down.
You're a fantastic mother. You'll do a great job at raising him to know he's a great little person and that he is very important to a lot of people! Xx
@jamie123 Oh god bless you, yeah I'll never let this be the better of them, they will grow up with so many people that love them it will over shadow that dick head!
Never going to say he's coming now just to save the heartbreak xx
What a prick. Why are you allowing him to have these chances when he’s just letting down his children. It’s only going to damage them. He either sees them and is consistent or if it was me would cut contact completely he’s a complete and utter waste of air he doesn’t even want to see your daughter he doesn’t deserve either of your children. Children remember broken promises.
@erincharlieconor Yup! For me if love to just move away and forget about him and raise my kids away from him but I would hate for Noah to grow up and think I've taken him away from his dad 😫 so hard to deal with.
I'm so glad I have this app to just sound off! Xx
@abbiiqx, your Noah will know who cares and who doesn’t so don’t think that because it’s not true ♥️ like i said before I stopped contact , he had the choice to fight for her through the system but didn’t bother so that way I know 100% I made the right decision.
It’s very hard because all us mums want is what’s best for our children but always carry that guilt even if we arnt in the wrong but it’s because we care and trust me our kids will know who cares xxx
@erincharlieconor I know 100% if I stopped contact he'll just leave them be, he threatens me with stopping the kids money but I'm going with cms now as it's one less thing he can use against me. But I agree we know what is best for our kids were with them all the time x
Sometimes I have no patience for my dog. He's a puppy and he constantly wants me to hold him or pick him up and he constantly cries. My patience while pregnant is literally at 0 and I feel bad because he's just a baby but I can't help it his crying irritates me 😭
So we decided on a rabbit. A friend breeds them and is actually giving him to us for free! He's about 11 weeks old. Going to pick him up next month 🤗
*Not sure what my 12 year old is going to name him yet. Stay tuned.
Soooo.... Tried Noah on some baby rice today (he's 4 months next week) as he's been showing signs that he's ready. Wasn't expecting him to be that interested but he loves it! Doesn't spit ant out and every mouthful leaves him with a huge smile!
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
I'd say cut all contact aswell. I know it's easier said than done but your little ones will grow up knowing their dad doesnt give a f**k otherwise. They will make their own minds up when they're older. It's not fair on them or you, especially when u have to break little guys heart on behalf of his dad 😔 Hope things are sorted soon xx