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I need opinions My son is almost 11 years old. His dad has been completely out of his life since he was 5 years old. And…

I need opinions


My son is almost 11 years old. His dad has been completely out of his life since he was 5 years old. And since he was born his dad would only see him once a year and not even for half a day. But my son has a Facebook that i check regular basis. Well i didnt notice he had a friend request. It was his dad. (This has been the second time in a year hes tryed friending him on Facebook). What should i do. My son not even sure he remembers what his dad looks like but knows his name. I dont know what to do. If i shluld ignore the request to his facebook or what. I honestly think thats not the way to do it kf he wants to be involved with him. Or see him. To add a 10 year old kid who doesnt know you... And behind the moms back. I just think its the wrong way..

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snarfyk

Maria

Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего

I'm 100% with you about it being wrong without going through you first, given he has no contact. Try to put your own feelings aside and sit your son down. Ask him how he feels about the situation. You'd be surprised how rational a 10 year old can be when it comes to life choices. They fight us bathing and dressing and homework, but they're capable of telling you how they feel about certain topics. Be prepared to answer questions about why his Dad isn't in his life, if he asks. Good luck!

anicole3285

Amanda

Мама троих детей

Thanks

lizibear84

Elizabeth Hebert

I think you should ignore the request on your sons page and contact his dad and tell him that if he wants to be a part of his life or get to know him, there are better ways of doing so

anicole3285

Amanda

Мама троих детей

well the respecting my decision is out the window. He doesn't respect me being his mom abd him not being there so now hes got to work at see him and build that relationship instead of it just happening like he thinks

lizibear84

Elizabeth Hebert

who doesn’t respect? Your son or his dad? I meant that his dad needs to respect your son’s decision about letting him in. If he doesn’t, you block him in every form

anicole3285

Amanda

Мама троих детей

his dad doesn't. He will blame it on me. But yea. I might talk to my son in the next couple of years. Hes a young 10..

mybabybear

mybabybear

Мама сына (5 лет)

At 11 years old I would ignore it. My son doesn’t really know his sons father either. At all never met him in fact. I do talk about him and get to show him though and be open. Unless this is something your son has brought up on his own, I would ignore it.

anicole3285

Amanda

Мама троих детей

He never talks about his dad and when he did see him once a year he called him by his first name so i dont think he recognizes him as "dad"

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