I had the most saddest realization today....i realized my brother has depression and the only reason i noticed was because all his songs are about depression and feeling like his life isnt his at first i thought maybe he just like songs like that then i realized as the songs got deeper he put the volume higher and got lost to the song like i did when i was depressed and i feel this is my mothers fault for assuming that because shes young for her age she can go out all week or weekend and leave him to my care or my grandparents and not even call to let us know shes okay she'll say she going to a friends house and then we find out shes out of town and didnt even tell us and the sad part is i dont know who to approach my brother and ask him if he is okay because i know he will deny that his depression like i use too because he done it before when i seen that he misses his dad i hate that my 15 year old brother has to suffer because my mom still finds it okay after her divorce 7 years ago to party and ignore her children and expect us to take care if ourselves
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I would talk to your brother about it, my hubby has depression and anxiety but I tend to make sure he’s in good spirits. If he’s not he likes to draw and listen to music so he’ll show me different pictures that he drew and stuff like that. My hubby can draw no doubt about it, just like your brother can play football. If your mom can’t get her shit together then he shouldn’t be with her. She can throw “I’m his mother” card at you all she wants but the thing is she has to be there for him as a mother. I know a few people who have told me shit like that and I’ve done told them well fucking act like your the kids mother. Actions speak louder then words js
Your mom needs to remember he is still a minor and needs to be cared for regardless if she wants to go out ,her children should be put first, 15 is a age they still need to feel loved and watched ,the fact that you see him going thru this shows your paying attention ,wishing him better days ahead ,many school have school counselors he can speak to
I've talked to her about it and her excuse is its only once im awhile i go out when in reality she doesnt have my brothet all week cause of school because he stays at my grandparents for school and then the weekend she goes out my brother is in football because i pushed him to go to football that he can do it and becausw of football he is picking his grades up because I push him and give him support my mom on the other hand she told him last year that she didnt care if he quit football because he was struggling with it and he eneded up quitting and getting summer school she doesnt care as long as he doesnt complain to her im moving soon 1 hour away from my family and im thinking of using my guest room to tell my brother to move in with me but i dont think my mom would let me she throws the im his mother card at me
@mommyofanamarie, I was a young teen mom at 16 so your mom s excuses are inexcusable ,my middle son is in football he’s on the varsity team I never miss a game no matter how tired I am from work and we live in Miami they have 10 games from end of aug and until next wk some of these games are played in over 90’weather I don’t complain chasing my toddler thru out the game because,my middle son plays hard and trains 5days a week from the second school is over until 7pm so I support him in anyway I can , you seem like a great sister “your mom should know being a mom is a 24-7 life long commitment not once in awhile ❤️
@sherrynygirl exactly i had my daughter at 18 and im 24/7 with her and i tell her what im going threw and her words are no one told u to open ur legs now deal with it i found it pointless to try to talk to her at this point my brother is amazing at football he actually is getting recruited by a great high school here in my city but my mom isnt making the effort to get his enrollment papers for next year so he can go to that school my mom didnt go to any games this year and home comming is next week and im sure she isnt going to go
I am so very sorry. No divorce or any reason should be excusable to leave and neglect children. I hope you can talk to him. Take it day by day and see if he opens up. Spend time with him.
I hope he does open up because i know how it feels to be depressed and i dont want him to go threw it like i did
He’s probably jus mad his moms a piece of crap that’s a good reason my mom was the same but unfortunately there not much you can do I would turn her ass in and stop taking the blame he will just form his own opinions about her and then grow up like he didn’t have a mom some ppl just don’t need kids turn her ass in stop taking responsibility for her actions that’s just enabling her more so she don’t have to parent