Ladies so my s/o family is aware that my son could possibly be autistic, and although I've become more comfortable with the idea of the possible diagnosis. The subject is still pretty sensitive to me, well last night when my s/o and I went over his moms house everyone was talking laughing and out of no where his mom. Who I might add always said he was fine hes fine he doesnt need all of that. Hes just a late learner Said something to my s/o and I out of no where no conversation about the topic was even brought up. Out no where she says: So is he going to live a normal life?? I looked my s/o Josh and then said he hasn't been diagnosed yet, and my s/o Josh her son said Wth! Yes hes going to live a normal life. his sister also gave her a face like wtf! Hes still a normal kid. I love my son more then anything, and I know he will have his struggles but what she said hurt me to my core!! As I write this I'm balling just replaying it in my head!
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Thank you for this.. in all honestly your the reason why I let it go!! I was ready to cut her completely off. I had a long cry, talked to my s/o he did say he was pissed and at the moment did speak up for our son.. he said she didnt mean to be insensitive.. she just doesnt know. Doesnt take away that it hurt me to my soul. I need to let it go for my sanity, and after all shes my son grandmother and I know in my heart she didnt mean bad by it
So it's gone with the wind!! I need to focus on my son.. thank you for giving me that light I needed in that moment of darkness
I’m sorry , I swear some people can be so clueless. I know it’s different but my son is 6 and has a speech delay , has an IEP and sees a speech therapist. My mil is completely ignorant on the subject and says things that are completely off and uncalled for . I try to ignore her and know she’s just uneducated on the subject.
That's where I'm at, just learning to understand that not everyone knows about autism. I barely know, but even then I know to watch what I say... moms with childrens with autism struggle everyday and insensitive comments..stab like a knife. I moved on from the ignorant comment and forgave her.. after all she is my sons grandmother. I'm sure she meant well..
There’s a group on Facebook called Autism mamas: advice & support they accept anyone and everyone. We don’t have a diagnosis and we are apart of the group and it’s SO nice to be apart of a community that understands exactly what I deal with day to day and I knowing that my son isn’t the only one that does certain things. It’s amazing.
Thank you so much I will look into it.. feels amazing to get all this support from preggie mommies
Did she seem to purposely be insensitive about it? Lots and lots of people are extremely uneducated about it, some are truly just rude and some come off as rude and don’t mean to be just because they are uneducated. I get looks when my son throws a fit or has a meltdown in public those looks like they want to ask me “isn’t he too old to be acting like that?” Some people make the nicer comments like “somebody’s tired!” But I can see it in there face that that’s not what they wanted to say. Sometimes I have to explain that he doesn’t talk yet(at almost 3) and they just “reassure” me that he will get it one day. My own grandma scoffs at the “he might be autistic” conversation and says the whole “way back when kids were just kids” bit. She doesn’t mean to be insensitive she’s just uneducated and getting a diagnosis for autism wasn’t a big thing a long time ago.
I'm sure she didnt meant too, but it hurt!! I didnt think if she meant it or not at the moment
I just wanted to rip her face off
I've let it go, after I had a good cry!! She is his grandma and I wont ever come between the relationship..
Rude or ignorant comments can be so insensitive and I’m so sorry! Please forgive her and don’t hold it against her, if it does continue to bother you then you or your s/o should talk to her about it privately that what she asked wasn’t okay. Don’t hold grudges, it only hurts you, be free and forgive her and try not to let it hurt your feelings! ❤️❤️