Real Talk: Should you or should you not teach your kids how to say I Love You! I never said it until I was in my 20's…

This is one of the strangest questions I have ever been asked. Did you grow up never hearing someone say that they loved you? (I swear I'm not being a bitch, I'm just really curious since it's such an alien concept for me)

But in answer to your question I tell my kid multiple times EVERY single day that I love her. I think it would be horrible not to hear how loved you are when your a child.

I have told my daughter I love her since before she was born. She used to stare at me blankly. Now sometimes shell say hiii and a whole bunch of gibberish babbling followed by a kiss. As those who said it before me kids learn the meaning of love naturally, as in any emotion. What you show them and say to them, they will give you back. I'm not saying you should have your kids say it to strangers but love and compassion are taught.

My kids always say it we all do like 100 times a day lol

Well, when you express your feelings to your children verbally, and without the intention of teaching to say anything, they will learn to do it too. I tell my son I love him several times a day, I kiss him and hug him so often he’s just used to it and learned to be like that too. He tells me I love you at night, kisses me without a reason, hugs me and caresses me all the time. He’s like that with me, and with his grandma and dad who also do the same. But I don’t obligate him to give kisses or say I love you to anyone. When someone visits and he’s comfortable he’ll go hug and kiss hi, but if he doesn’t like the person he just won’t and that’s fine, I ask him to say hi only. People would be like “oooh look mommy Shemaiah doesn’t wanna give me a kiss!! Do something!!” And I go like, that’s ok, go play Shema. 🤷🏻‍♀️ sorry not sorry.

Oh and they might not say I love you back to the 2-times-seen family member or friend. But if the do, I wouldn’t pay attention to it, anyways they barely see each other and kids are kids. When mine gets told I love you from and outsider he replies “yeah”... like “thanks” or something 😂 and I love that. He would say I love you back to us only.

I think I didn't explain thoroughly exactly what I meant. So here's the explanation. You should always tell your kids you love them. I definitely agree with that. My concern is when people like cousins they have seen 2 times say they love you to your child would you be okay with your child saying it back. Maybe not even a cousin but a friend or something.

I never heard I love you growing up much in my house so for me to say it to anyone besides my kids, my partner, my mom and siblings is strange to me. But I have a friend only known for a year and she tells me she loves me. I am hesitant to say it back for whatever reason. So I guess this goes based on religion as it says" we shall love our neighbors" but do we really say "i love you to our neighbors "?

I have told my daughter I love her since before she was born. She used to stare at me blankly. Now sometimes shell say hiii and a whole bunch of gibberish babbling followed by a kiss. As those who said it before me kids learn the meaning of love naturally, as in any emotion. What you show them and say to them, they will give you back. I'm not saying you should have your kids say it to strangers but love and compassion are taught.

I tell my kids too but only if they are comfortable saying it. Like I tell them I love them and they say it back but I won't force them to tell anyone that. They love me and I love them so we say it everyday to each other.

If you say you only said it at 20 because you meant it, you mean you didn't understand love towards your parents while you were a teenager???

If you love your children tell them you love them, children know and understand love towards their parents at very early stages in their life! Unless you don't want them to tell you they love you

My daughter has been telling me I love you at bedtime since she was a year old. I didn’t teach her she just learned it from me. Now she says it to me, her brother, her grandparents, etc.

My son and I tell each other all the time that we love each other. Why wouldn’t parents want to say this to their children? It’s the sweetest, purest form of the love, the love of a child 💜💜

This is one of the strangest questions I have ever been asked. Did you grow up never hearing someone say that they loved you? (I swear I'm not being a bitch, I'm just really curious since it's such an alien concept for me)

But in answer to your question I tell my kid multiple times EVERY single day that I love her. I think it would be horrible not to hear how loved you are when your a child.

I mean unless you don't actually love your kids, you should be saying it. That in itself teaches them it.

I disagree 100% I can’t wait until I hear my daughter say I love you mama . I tell her all day every day how much I love her and can’t wait to hear it back .

Definitely disagree.. my I tell my baby I love him every day and he says it right back.. well because he loves me 🤷🏽‍♀️

I always tell my kids I love them. Naturally they learn what it means.