Since day 1 I have given my SO the benefit of the doubt. His mom died 2 weeks before our son was born so I let a lot go telling myself he was mourning. We live separate and he wouldn’t ask to see his son so I wouldn’t ask him to. Anytime I asked friends with kids they would say “he’s a man, it’s different for them” and more excuses like that. He now blames me for our son crying saying my mom and I held him too much as a newborn. When we spend the night over there he sits our 4 month old in the swing and expects him to be fine for hours only taking him out for feedings and changing. I told him this is bad for his social and motor skills and that he needs to be entertained. He replied to me “then you entertain him 24/7” never would I ever want to keep our son from his father but is it reasonable now? He’s not willing to do what my 4 month old needs in order to grow..help!
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Get child support and get rid of that loser who would want that as a father smh 🤦🏽♀️ the shit I read on here he obviously needs some parenting classes I wouldn’t let him near my kid until he graduated that 💯
Maybe he’s still mourning it’s only been four months it’s took my husband 6 months to come back to himself he didn’t wanna talk nor be around anyone especially if his mom treated him like a baby 😒 give it some more time and see what happens I hope everything works out for the both of you❤️
Is the baby over his dads a lot ? More than 50%? if the baby isn’t there for a lot of time. Don’t beat yourself up about what he’s not doing. I don’t know how much actually engagement (tummy time etc) my SO has with my son while I’m at work. But I make sure I do ALL I can and more. It would be nice if they cared about the same things we cared about but you can’t make someone care about what you care about
We spend 3&1/2 days at my moms, 3&1/2 days at his house so yeah 50% of the time but I hear ya, I get that a lot that men usually don’t seem to care as much about the details
@taylor.bush29, don’t make it fair or right though. Praying this gets better !
Fathers don’t have the same patience and love as mothers do and that’s normal plus he’s mother died recently which is understandable but what I don’t get is why he gives attitude when he talks to u. Btw my husband always tells me that me and my family spoiled my daughter a lot I guess because men think more of discipline than us mums