Since day 1 I have given my SO the benefit of the doubt. His mom died 2 weeks before our son was born so I let a lot go telling myself he was mourning. We live separate and he wouldn’t ask to see his son so I wouldn’t ask him to. Anytime I asked friends with kids they would say “he’s a man, it’s different for them” and more excuses like that. He now blames me for our son crying saying my mom and I held him too much as a newborn. When we spend the night over there he sits our 4 month old in the swing and expects him to be fine for hours only taking him out for feedings and changing. I told him this is bad for his social and motor skills and that he needs to be entertained. He replied to me “then you entertain him 24/7” never would I ever want to keep our son from his father but is it reasonable now? He’s not willing to do what my 4 month old needs in order to grow..help!