Does your child’s father help with the kids ? My husband does the absolute bare minimum and just told me I’m naggin him…

I understand your post but,maybe because ,I am an older mom “The Term help”sounds odd Takes 2 people to make a baby &should take 2 responsibilities of the parents to make sure all their child’s needs and especially wife’s needs are met when you just had a newborn ! My motto is train your man ! To be more aware of things he needs to do not just be a father in the background “make a list and or tell him This is what YOU expect to be done in the home and for your children #1

I’ve learnt over the years if I want/need help I need to tell him what to do not expect him to just do something then get mad when he doesn’t. I now tell him what to do and he does it, it works lol.

So my husband worked nights and mornings while having our kids and when the baby woke in the middle of the night he got up, got the baby, changed them, and gave him to me to nurse and get the baby back to sleep. That way we both do a part at night because we are both the parents and one shouldn't be doing everything and getting no sleep even if the other works. I had two csections so at the beginning it was hard for me to get out the bed so that's how that routine started but we kept with it. And if I need to get out the house because I am there 24/7 with the kids, I tell him I'm going to go shopping or get coffee and he watches the kids (not baby sits because they are his kids).

@mommagoat, so he can feed him

I feel like I’m about to be in the same boat. He’s already talking about sleeping in the living room.

People do whatever they're allowed to do. It's not too late to get him in order. He needs to step up and be a hands on father! No excuses why he can't do his job. "DoeS hE WoRK?"😩 I hate that question in situations like this. Forget his job. He has responsibilities just like you. What's going to happen when you go back to work? Everything will still fully be on you when you get off. Some men just suck and so does the people that make excuses for why they can't do their part.

@lpreston, 2 children so close in age sounds exhausting so give your self time and credit ,I waited many yrs apart to have more children, my mom and my husband s mom had kids so close in age I understand why they are the way they are and that’s back in the day when most women stayed home in the 1960-80’s and raised their children , after giving birth our bodies take almost a full yr for our organs to go back into place ,women go thru childbirth,periods,cramps ,Hormones&deal with a lot of shit before it gets too much Tell him what u want and what u need and what U expect ,good luck and hope u get a break for sleep,shower and eat a hot meal even if u need to shower stay in extra take time for you

My husband helps. It took a few talks for him to fully grasp that just because he works doesn't give him an excuse to not help with the children he helped create. I usually have to ask some things, but it's more of we alternate things. On weekends we alternate who makes breakfast. Baths are alternated. Etc. There should be a balance with it.

I understand your post but,maybe because ,I am an older mom “The Term help”sounds odd Takes 2 people to make a baby &should take 2 responsibilities of the parents to make sure all their child’s needs and especially wife’s needs are met when you just had a newborn ! My motto is train your man ! To be more aware of things he needs to do not just be a father in the background “make a list and or tell him This is what YOU expect to be done in the home and for your children #1

Of course he helps with our daughter. He works a lot, so I do most of the child-rearing, but whenever he's home he helps with everything.

Does he work? My husband is currently taking time off because he's got an injury so it's completely 50/50 unless he can't do something physically which is totally fine. I have it set up so he can do everything without bending really though. When he's working I do most but I make sure I ask for help if and when I need it.

I’ve learnt over the years if I want/need help I need to tell him what to do not expect him to just do something then get mad when he doesn’t. I now tell him what to do and he does it, it works lol.