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Opinions or advice !!
I have a 5 year old from a previous relationship.her father and I tried being together when she was like 4 months and the relationship ended before she turned one. He is very irresponsible, he barely sees or talks to her. He works from home so he has all the time in the world but this man calls her maybe MAYBE once a week. He will get her from my parents who live 15 minutes from him maybe every other Saturday for 3-5 hours. He has constantly disrespecting me in front of her I relationship is very toxic however I try to keep things as a minimum as possible. By disrespecting me A good example would be that if he calls to talk to her he will end the conversation by arguing with me. First week of school not once called. However whenever there’s a holiday or a family member’s birthday party or family in town he feels like I need to clear her schedule and make her available for him. wish I honestly find that is unnecessary and he doesn’t have the rights to demand any time with her when he’s not even trying to communicate with her on a day today basis. I always made excuses for him I always planned things for them to do together but it’s getting to the point where the visits are less and less and recently he cross the line by blaming me to her about them not seeing each other. There’s no relationship in between my husband and him because of the fact that he is disrespectful and disagrees.With another man living with his daughter however before I got in a serious relationship Before I even brought it up my husband which other time with my boyfriend asked me what was going to be the process on him meeting her dad because of the fact that he felt that it was necessary for them to meet each other before we moved in together but when I brought that up to her dad he flipped out and threaten to kill us all . She has been bringing up the fact that she wants to see him more and spend more time with him And even though she’s only five I feel like I need to have the talk with her. I asked a family member and my best friend why did they think considering that they know the full story family member said that I need to talk to her about the situation all the time so she’s not confused and she’s not expecting more than she’s going to get my friend told me that she’s too young and just to let it be because age will eventually realize things for herself.
But as I mom I feel terrible that she thinks I’m the reason they don’t see each other.
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I’m expecting him to call her a couple times a week before school or even after school to ask how was her day. My husband my parents my brother his mom(her grandma) call frequently even if the conversations are 5 minutes it means a lot specially to her who is very attentive. He gets her “maybe” twice a month MAYBE there’s time two months go by and he hasn’t even bothered asking to see her.
I don’t think I was contradicting myself
I feel like it’s not okay for him to think that when a holiday or something special comes up then he wants all rights and he wants to send for her but through the year on a day to day or week to week basis he doesn’t even call to ask if she’s okay or is she needs anything.
That’s where things get toxic I know I won’t hear from him but as soon as a holiday comes up “ Halloween” a couple days before he will send a text saying he needs her that day and that he has plans for her... so if I had already planned something that’s where the craziness begins threats name calling... last time he took her was his other daughters birthday and I she had a photoshoot booked on (Sunday) at 4 so I asked to get her back no later than 1 and allowed him to have her all day and evening Saturday so Sunday they where going to have breakfast and that was it’s 4 pm Sunday he was threatening on not bringing her back until he FELT like it
@pnrl1992., it’s a lot I don’t and shouldn’t have to deal
With and it might be time to have a talk with my daughter nothing negative but for her not to expect much or think that I’m keeping her from him
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Would you consider this cheating? What would you do
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So what are expecting out of him? Not being rude. Just wondering. She's 5 so not a whole lot you can talk bout to a 5 year old
At less he gets her every week.
Then I'm confused by your statement he expects me to clear her schedule for holidays and birthday but then complains about him not making plans and u stopped making plans for them. I guess this all confusing and your contradicting yourself.
Be thankful he is involved my kids don't hear from their father in years.
Just speak to him and ask hey she wants to spend more time with you you think your carln find time to.
And when holiday and birthday come keep some time for him. You know he will so share them Easter Christmas wake up at home then send to dads that's what I do with my mom.