kotasmomy2317
Casey
Need serious relationship advice!! SO has been acting really shady lately and Saturday he was going “evening fishing” for a few hours which I didn’t think much of until he was literally rushing me to go to my Moms all day like ever so often I’d hear “so what time you leaving” or “when you going to your moms” so when my aunt dropped our daughter back off at home me and her left literally 10 mins later cause he was ready to go fishing. We come to my moms to hangout and he goes fishing. Hours pass by and he’s now stopped texting (we hadn’t texted much anyways only about 4 texts total) but then after I tried to call him several times texts stopped going through as iMessage and calls were straight to voicemail. I began to get worried cause it was now almost 3 am. He finally texts and says that his phone died. Apparently he left the creek he was at around 9 to go out on the boat with his buddy from work.. weird parts are “he didn’t think to tell me” but his phone hadn’t died yet. My texts stopped going through about 10:30. Another weird things is, he texted me on his way home but his car charger was in my car.. not his truck. Then all day yesterday he acted really weird and al day today he’s gave the cold shoulder and now he’s “not happy with the relationship” 🤔 I normally wouldn’t go through his phone but he’s on it CONSTANTLY and I’m literally not allowed to touch it. Like even if we’re playing music in the car or something I can’t pick a song on it and when we stop as gas stations or something even if I’m literally singing the song or something he’ll unplug it and take it in. Soooo how horrible of a person would I be if I went through it while he’s asleep? I know he’ll throw the biggest fit ever if I find something and confront him but I’m literally going insane and need to know. PS.. he’s got a track record of cheating on me once before....
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Don't look through it just fucking leave
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Time to move on and say goodbye
You deserve to be happy. Don’t settle on this dude because of five years. Seriously. His actions define his intentions. You have so much to offer the right man. Don’t let your kid think it’s ok to live like that.. Especially if your not happy.
My inbox is open if you need an ear!
Fuck it. Go through his phone. You should leave regardless of what you find, though. He’s put you through enough.
Don’t even bother looking through it. Just leave. If he’s giving you reasons to believe he’s cheating, odds are he is. Trust me
You and your little girl deserve to be happy. Did he take fishing equipment or come back with fishing evidence?
Idk I left before he did. He literally loaded our daughter up in the car and told us bye. I did realize something just a min ago tho. He said he went back in to get his gun and his worms before he left but now that I think about it I don’t think he got worms until AFTER he left our house 🤔🤔
@kotasmomy2317 I hope you figure things out girl, no one deserves a cheater. 💞
Tigers don't change their stripes, hon. He's full of shit and you're getting warning signs all over. I've been in your shoes.
I thought that maybe I was just paranoid but having all of you ladies agree and think that something up too makes me believe myself even more 😭
In my personal experience, basicallythe exact same thing happened & he was cheating. I finally went thru his phone & found the truth. At that point idgaf if you snap that I went thru your shit cause clearly I needed to be. & I’ll smash the phone to pieces if you’re gonna give me shit over it, cause fuck you for cheating. I’d go thru that. More than likely everything is deleted but if you drop it & he thinks you’re over it, he might forget some shit & not delete it.
I haven’t said anything about the “fishing trip” yet the only thing I had mentioned was that it irritated me that yet again he was out so late but other than that I’ve been holding it all in so that he wouldn’t think I had any suspicions that’s how I figured it all out about the last time he was shady and was cheating
@kotasmomy2317, then fuck it, id definitely be creeping thru his phone I can’t even lie.
Leave, don’t waste any more years.
He obviously isn’t happy, don’t be the one to make him feel that way. Let him go. Karma is a bitch. The grass ain’t always greener on the other side. What guys don’t understand now in 2019, girls aren’t wanting a relationship. They just want money & sex. If he doesn’t want his family , let him go. Don’t stress yourself & think you aren’t good enough, because you ARE! At least you know you tried!
@mychemicalshaymance, 😭😭😭
@outnumbered yessss, whole essays on it lol.
@momma_melodyof5, I’ve asked a million times and it’s always some bullshit excuse like I don’t ever want to spend time with him or crap when I ALWAYS try to spend time with him and especially when it’s family things I want to do or something
He sounds like bullshit.
If you need some type of confirmation then go through the phone. Although, I’m sure he has a password on it.
@kotasmomy2317, do you share a phone plan?
@missheatherbaby, yeah kind of. Like we’re on the “same plan” but mine is AT&T and his is first net through AT&T cause he’s a first responder
@kotasmomy2317, make yourself a login and check his call and text usage 🤷🏻♀️
Oh heck no.
I wouldn’t put up with this 💩 and neither should you! Listen to your gut feeling! Pack his crap and throw it out in the yard girl!
I got a gut feeling the moment he told me he was going fishing but I tried to let it go cause he swear that I don’t ever let him go anywhere or talk to anybody and such 🙄
Leave. Fuuuuuuuck that shit. History of cheating and acting shady? Yeah no, kick his ass to the curb. You gave him his chances. Now its your turn to be Happy.
@mychemicalshaymance, yes! We were at a festival for his fire department and she was there and he was like avoiding her for a min then she came over to “chit chat” with me and asked to hold Dakota and I didn’t think anything of it and then he spoke to her and everything. I found out about 3 weeks later I think
@kotasmomy2317 wow! How trashy of both of them.
@mychemicalshaymance, yes! I think that’s what pissed me off the most is the fact that she held my child and was deliberately friendly to my face knowing what they were up to🙄🙄🙄
Don't look through it just fucking leave
I’ve tried so hard for almost 5 years it sucks to just have wasted all that time 😩😭
@kotasmomy2317 if you're unhappy and you think it's beyond repair just leave! I been through it. You don't wanna waste any more time or unhappiness on this. The hardest part is going through with leaving. After a while it will feel better, promise. There's so many women's support groups out there too.