So my son is in aba. His therapist suggested we get him a baby doll and show him how you be gentle…
So my son is in aba. His therapist suggested we get him a baby doll and show him how you be gentle with babies and how we hold them, how to feed them with the bottle and how to be quiet and let baby sleep. We even made a shoe box bed for it. We just folded up 2 pillow cases laid them in it and used one of his old baby receiving blankets. Well, the other day I got the baby’s car seat off the table and set it on the floor. I told my son to come sit with me and I buckled his baby into the seat and showed him “look bubby! You can pick it up if your able to!” What does he do? He stomped on his baby dolls head and giggled...then last night he put her in the swamp cooler we have... 😭 he’s never treated her with such behavior before. He hugs her and holds her normally but now I’m scared he’s going to be mean to the new baby...
Sistersmainpiece·
😂😂 I’m also nervous for when my baby comes. My daughter won’t be as old as your son but she is mean. My friend has a baby and my daughter will try to hit him, poke his eyes, pinch him, bite him. I teach her gentle touch. I’ve shown her how to be gentle with him . I don’t know if it’s a jealousy thing or if she just doesn’t understand how to be gentle. I think with age it will get better. Just be patient, try to include him in things. I’d let him sit beside you and baby and have him rub baby’s arm. Maybe let him hold the bottle. Let me know what works for you when the baby arrives. I’m curious to see how your son will react.
M. P. ··
He’s autistic though 😕 probably high functioning..aba is behavioral therapy. It’s a real issue he has with things like this especially with doing them and then laughing about it even though I’ve said “no that’s not nice that hurt baby”. I’m breastfeeding so I’m worried he will try to push her out of the way thinking I’m cuddling her and loving on her and not him(he’s obviously welcome to come cuddle with me while she eats.) I think if she gets bottles and he did it he’s eventually shove it down her throat. Like this is a huge problem lol
Sistersmainpiece··
@bubbys.mommy, oh no, I’m sorry. My situation is different but my son is bipolar and hears voices , he has hurt my baby a few times. I can not trust him with her at all. One time I walked into the kitchen to get a drink, when I came back I caught him trying to poke her eyes out with a stick. He was holding her in front of me once and threw her. Out of no where just threw her. He has bitten her finger and said he was trying to bite her finger off, he did it in front of me. He did it so fast I didn’t realize what happened. I understand your fears momma. I hope with your sons therapy everything will work out for you. Take it one day at a time. That’s how I get through. Oh and of course now I don’t turn my back for a second. 🤦🏽♀️
Raven·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Mine repeatedly threw his baby doll against the wall for not reason after being sweet to it. But he's the sweetest ever with his sister now that she's here. I think when they know it's a doll they treat it like a toy. But now he yells at me if Violet cries for more than two seconds lol. Tells me she's crying and needs help lol.