I’ve never forced my child to give affection to anyone including family (or myself.) We ask my daughter to “give loves” when leave a family members house or such and if she says no or acts like she doesn’t want to then we just casually tell her that’s fine tell everybody bye. Her grandma kept pushing for hugs when we were leaving once and my daughter kept saying no and was trying to play and I just couldn’t take it. I just picked my daughter up told her to say bye and loaded her in the truck because I just couldn’t force her to give her grandma hugs. I’ll never force her to show anyone affection!