I can not stand the judgement over being a younger mother. 🙄 Yes I'm 23, yes I have two children, no…
I can not stand the judgement over being a younger mother. 🙄 Yes I'm 23, yes I have two children, no they weren't boh accidents. Went to he store just now and was stopped by a lady who had to be in her forties or older, she commented on boh the kids, okay cool. Asked how old Violet is and says I look good for having a baby a month ago. That's fine. Then proceeds to go. "Was she planned? You can't be over 18, good on you for choosing to keep these precious kids."....First of all, that's completely inappropriate to say. There's no way that won't come off as rude, two don't assume that my children were accidents and that I had to make a choice to keep them or not, and three don't assume I'm a teenager just because I'm short an look younger, and of you do, there's not reason to comment. I politely told her I'm nearly 24 and just look young. This woman then has the balls to ask me if they have the same father and if he/they are still in the picture. Their father was at the store with me, just grabbing something we forgot to pick up on the other side of the store. I'm glad he wasn't there because he would have went off on this lady. After that I just told her I needed to get home and feed the baby and I walked away. I get it's the norm now to wait until your 30s, I didn't, so what? That doesn't mean my children were concieved on accident or that I'm a single mother. I'm not any different than a mother who had her first at 30, but people always have to comment on how young I am and how it's so crazy Ive got two children at my age and "didn't you want to live a little before kids? Travel or party?" Nope. I have no interest in partying, never have, I'd rather be home or at the park with my kids, and I'll travel WITH them, a family trip sounds so much better to me. People always comment on how I gave up my life to have my kids and didn't experience my 20s because of them. My kids ARE my life, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Just because I'm young doesn't mean I threw my life away.
RoseMom·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I believe she crossed the line when she asked about the father. She was rude overall 🙄
Jami·
Yup I'm 20 with 2 kids. I had my son at 17...he wasn't planned though lol. My little lady was planned. However I always feel weird when people ask those things. Like why do those nosey bitches care, it's not their life to worry about
TayTay·
Girl I understans this completely I have 9 kids and people always assume I'm a welfare project mama. They automatically assume I'm single and struggle. Then I'm like no I'm married dad makes $25 a hour work 60+ hours a week and we live nicely. Noe proceed to tell me which bill or pack of diapers are u paying for! Js
Heather·
Мама сына (7 лет)
Dear young people:
Do not assume someone that is “in their 40’s” is somehow ancient and out of touch. I am in my 40’s and I have never spoken to a young mom in the manner you are describing. Not everyone is like this.
Jess🌹♥️·
I’m 21 with 2 kids that were planned. people are so rude, that was so inappropriate of her. i’m sorry you had to go through that, i’ve heard it a few times myself 🙄
💕💕💕·
My mother in law had my husband at 35 and he was her first so when I got pregnant at 21 with my daughter it was the end of the world. She told my husband that she was concerned because I was too young. 🙄
Lucky Mommy ·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (35 нед.)
Thank you girl speak the fuckn truth like really speaking for them ignorant ass old folks bc I'm bout to be 25 and still get asked that type of shyt like really that shyt piss me off the only thing that really piss me off is that I'm mix and my sons are there dads white so I get nasty looks
Kara Nelson·
Мама троих детей
I’m 26 with 3 kids
I had my oldest daughter Isabelle when I was 20 and got pregnant when I was 19
I had my son Charles jr when I was 22 and got pregnant with him when I was 21
And my youngest baby Hinata when I was 23 and got pregnant with her when I was 23
I want one more and my whole family don’t want me to have another one I was told if I have another baby then I will be cut off and they will no long come around so I know some of what ur going through
Jessica-Louise ·
Мама троих детей
It’s really not the norm to wait until you’re 30, There is no norm!
I’m 25 have a 6year old, 2 and 9month old and tbh couldn’t give a flying fish who thinks what about me because I love my kids they love me they are healthy and happy and that’s all that matters! X
Angelina·
You didn’t have to explain her anything.
Thisisnotaname·
I'm 34 my oldest is 18
Weird Bitch Get Off My Page·
21 with four kids and damn proud 🙌🏼
Torkwase·
Don't let people get you worked up. Ignorance is constant. You can politely tell her to mind her damn business unless she want to stand there and be judged on how she looks and how ridiculous she sounds. I started telling people to mind their damn business or I just ignore them.
Valerie·
Girllll this is me‼️ I’m 23 with a 4.5 year old and 3 month old and I get crazy stares. It’s usually old people too🤷🏽♀️ I’ve had one man tell me he was gonna pray for me because god doesn’t like unmarried women with kids. Like okay thanks bro😂
mickey😚·
Мама троих детей
27 and only planned for one! Ended up with 3 lol
Virginia·
Многодетная мама (6 детей)
Y'all are beautiful and wonderful mothers. Don't let people make you feel a certain way because they are ignorant. I have dealt with some ignorant people before but I just ignored them. Everyone seema to have an opinion about something. I'm 32 with 6 beautiful children. My oldest just turned 12 on the 12th. My youngest is almost 7weeks. I have never been the partying type and still don't. I work , live, take my kids places, and enjoy being a mom, and wife. Those who ask those kind of question or have any type of judgment can kick rocks because they don't pay my bills nor do they take care my kids.
Gina Vannoy·
Мама троих детей
I went through this with my first baby at 20 yrs old and I looked 16. Not terribly but always with much older people. NOW, my third baby I just had last year at 38....let me tell you how many “young” people have sneered at me for being an “old” mom. “Aren’t you worried you’ll be mistaken for her grandma when she starts school?”🙄So yeah. All you twenty-somethings calm down and just know y’all can be just as judgey as the thirty-forty-fifty something’s. It boils down to difference of opinion and preconceived assumptions. Some people, no matter their age, can’t keep it to themselves. What’s important is you will remember how this made you feel as a young adult and you won’t do it to other young mothers when you get older ❤️