Curious as to if this was a form of abuse or a sign? We got into an argument and he started yelling at me to leave so I…

This seems like both. I’d take it as a sign to get out!! I’ve been in abusive relationship and ignored the signs but thankfully I’m a survivor and got out before it was too late

looks like he kicked the door in, this is definitely an abusive relationship I would get out while you can especially if you’re scared and your daughter is scared.

His behavior screams he needs to work on himself big time! I definitely believe in getting yourself together mentally emotionally spiritually etc before being in a relationship but if you end up realizing during the relationship that a change is needed especially when it's for the best go for it and let go! I mean if he truly loves you he'll get the help he needs on his own which truthfully would be beneficial for himself and especially his child. This most certainly seems to not be a safe, calm and collective environment for either of you so you actually know what to do. Remember when the truth is right in front of you definitely do not turn a blind eye to it.🙏❤

Both! Run while you still can.

Nah duck that. If you don’t get out he will be physically abusive towards you. Get away

Soooo before me and my husband bas comuntocation skills this was me...I once knocked a whole door off its hinges and though the room he locked himself in....if this abnormal and you guys could work get some counseling there somthing bigger going to on then he needs you.

This is a huge red flag! 🚩 This behavior will only escalate.

He needs to go get himself help. I never encourage anyone to stay in a situation like this. Next time could be your face or your child. Get out. He can work on himself on his own. Co dependency never works well if someone is afraid of being hurt by the other. Don’t let that be the reason you stay

If you’re having to question it, then it’s not a good sign. These are red flags that you shouldn’t ignore. Please stay safe!

So this was the first red flag I ignored from my ex. He kicked a door in. Well 6 years later he almost killed me and my daughter and I almost had to kill him to save us. Dont be a victim hun

Ditto ⬆️ I don't like telling people to leave, but girl this is a huge red flag. No sane person breaks a door like this because they want into a room to either continue fighting or...whatever he was doing. That's a weird way of apologizing.

This is a red flag ! No doubt about it . If this is done while your children are in ur home you can loose them . They will say u cant protect urself you cant protect ur children . You need to leave . This gets way worse as the true colors come out . He will hit you ! No doubt about it . And he seems like the type to abuse then make you feel sorry for his actions cause he needs you . He needs mental help and anger management and to be assessed further by professional...

If you have to ask then it is abuse. I just got out of an abusive relationship. Pm me of you need too.

Sounds like he does need help, sounds like to me he’s not even realizing what he’s doing when he’s angry or upset, saying that with the whole smacking* of the door and u think he hit or even kicked it. It happens pple do lose control and not realize what they are doing or saying but the only proves he’s gotta grow as a person and realize he has a issue. Anger management or therapy seems like it probly help him some

The door can easily be the person he was trying to get at.

Plain simple truth. Tough to swallow but who wants to be threatened with their life at the comfort of their own home? No one does... I hope.

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I won’t put my two cents in because I’ve been here and I know you’re not gonna hear any of the comments unless they say what you want them to say. Just how it works in these situations it seems.

What I will say is I’m praying hard for you and your daughter and I’m sorry you’re both in this situation. I hope you can find a solution to this and make the right choice for you and your babygirl. Remember, you have to think and act for her as well. It’s not just you and him anymore.

Stay safe❤️

I've been in this situation, but I didn't have children with him. 8 years I was with him and it started off as things like this and then turned physical. Everyone kept telling me to leave in the beginning but I didn't. We had lost a child to stillbirth and I put it down to that. That it was the reason he was like that and felt sorry for him. He was driving down the highway one day, screaming at me and hitting me and then turned the wheel. We both nearly died. It was a massive wake up call to me and I got out. I was promised time and time again that he would change, he would get help... but he never did. I'm not going to sit here and tell you to leave, I know you probably won't but my suggestion is with your child involved is to go and stay with someone, maybe your mum for example and give him the ultimatum to get help or you won't be bringing your child back to that situation. You've got your daughter's safety to think about now, he's grown and needs to sort himself out, you can't do it for him. My inbox is open if you ever need to talk.

If your daughters boyfriend/husband did this towards her, and she told/shown you, how would you feel? What would you tell her to do? That should answer your question.