So me and the ex have been getting on fine for once, all has been good and I've been letting him…
So me and the ex have been getting on fine for once, all has been good and I've been letting him take violet and noah out for walks together with him and his new girlfriend just for a few hours, it's killed me but I gave up with the arguing lol. But this week she decided to break up with him and they were arguing and I literally helped them get back together because my ex was devastated and saying stupid things to me like he wasn't worth being here so you know I did what I could because as much as he's a dick I want to see him happy. Turns out him new girlfriend is super crazy and paranoid and now he's not allowed to message me unless it's the days he's coming to see or get the kids... I mean I was with him for 10years so as much as he's an ex he was like my best friend so we talk random crap and send pictures of food 😂 but now I just have to cut him out, so now I'm thinking with her trying to help him take me court was this a plan to try get the kids off me so he didn't have to come see me? He's told me stuff she's done in the 2 months they have been together and she's sounds crazy but I guess I just have to let him deal with it. No point to this post just a rant 😂
Kelsey·
Мама сына-младенца
I think you should just talk about the kids and nothing more really if hes in a new relationship. If you were in a new relationship and he was having conversations with his ex youd probably not be happy about it as most of us wouldn't be. Not taking her side or anything I just know I'd hate it myself 😂 as for her taking you to court I'm sure youd win anyway. Dont listen to all he says about her men like to make out women are crazy yet never say what they've actually done to make them like that. Remember theres 2 sides to every story. 😊 again I'm not defending her but it sounds like your ex is being quite manipulative by telling you things about their relationship xx
Kelsey·
Мама сына-младенца
Also try to imagine all the stuff hes probably said to her about you if he says it about her, you're probably a crazy psycho ex that wants him back etc etc. Men like that are good at playing you against each other xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
@kelseysym that's what it became now we were speaking fine without arguing which was progress compared to every thing that's been going on lol, and he tells me stuff asks with help on bills, I did everything in the relationship so I guess he can't let that go and I just say okay. Definetly no feelings as he was awful, but i guess I'm the rare person that actually wants to get on with there ex for the kids and I guess some people have trust issues 🤷♀️ but I am leaving him to it, she doesn't like him talking to me so ill respect it, I'm all for the easy life now 😂
Kelsey··
Мама сына-младенца
but then how come you want to be friends with him? 😳 If you know how awful he is can you really believe she is just crazy? I think theres probably a whole different side and he probably leaves a lot of the story out. He definitely shouldnt be asking for help with anything either. But yeah definitely just keep it civil and only speak about the kids, you're saving everyone a whole load of drama and you can get on with your life. If he messages you telling you about his relationship just tell him you arent interested and he shouldnt be sharing that information with you xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
@kelseysym you know what I have no idea haha I guess being apart we got on better and was okay until he got a gf and I got with my new partner (when the arguments about contact started) yeah your proberly right there proberly is! Like with most things. I think I just got a bit protective over the kids when he's sat saying she's crazy I'm like ahh and you want the kids around all that drama 🤦♀️ for sure I'm just going to leave them to it and just tell him he's got to be an adult now and deal with his own crap! Been good to here other people's opinions helps me see what the best things to do are 😁 xx
Sara-Louise·
I have to agree with @kelseysym I would just keep things platonic from now on. He's nice this week but from previous posts he's been an absolute arsehole & a nasty piece of work. Remember why you broke up... 10yrs is a long time & he's the father of your children. He's always going to be part of their lives & yours in some way. But I think at this fresh raw time things need to be as simple as possible. You've both moved on to new relationships & need to have boundaries. Who knows next week he might be back to his usual arsehole ways lol
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
Yeah I mean I agree he is a dick 😂 but it's always gone from arguments to friends the next week so I guess it's just hard to stop talking to someone after so long and I guess I thought having a good relationship with him would be best for the kids but I agree I'm just going to keep to contact days and just deal with it. It's hard this balancing how to deal with things
Sara-Louise··
Yeh of course it will be & your dealing with it amazingly. It's definately going to be a learning curve. And of course you want to keep things as friendly as possible. I guess it's finding a balance between getting on but not being too involved with each other's personal lives.
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
aww thanks, I am trying lol! You kind of get told by different people how to act or go off other experiences so i was trying the civil route because aside the arguing over the kids we do get on lol. But i guess I'll just keep to what he's asked as it keeps the drama away and I think I've had enough of that these past few months 😂
Xxxxxxx·
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Honestly you need to take a back seat when it comes to any relationship he has wether its with her or others and if he comes to u about his relationships you need to make it clear ur not interested you both need to get on with ur lives and that will mean not msging eachother all the time only if its about the children. Yes you were like best friends but as harsh as this is he has a new best friend now you need to find the balance between being exes and being civil for the childrens sakes
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
Very true! I mean he was awful to me and I guess because things had finally settled down so I thought we could just carry on being friends but clearly not the way 🤦♀️ trying to balance that co parenting life and you never know how to handle it but I'm leaving them to it she dont like him talking to me then fine, I need a drama free life haha x