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Brandi Bulgin
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I need personal advice so please no bad comments: So my fiance can't deal with my mom constantly putting him down and…

I need personal advice so please no bad comments:

So my fiance can't deal with my mom constantly putting him down and making him feel like the worlds worst father yet talks way different to me. (We live in the livingroom and have been through a lot of shit since we moved in 7 months ago) I gave birth to my newborn 2 days ago and my fiance tells me he can't live with her and wants to move out, with or without me. Of course I'm going to be with him but we would only be paying for a hotel weekly while I'm at my mom's house having her help me with both my son and newborn... Does it seem logical to pay for a hotel room by the week when at 9:30am to 6pm I'll be somewhere else? We're basically going to pay for somewhere to sleep and keep our stuff... Honestly I would rather save up for a place than pay $450 a week for a hotel but I don't want my fiance to be miserable in the process.

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nervous_mama

Brandi BulginМама двоих (младенец)

@cams @cuppacoffee No, no one can help us. My parents house is the last place we can stay or we go to a hotel or the streets. And my in laws have their own lives

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momma_of_1

Celia CМама дочки (4 года)

$450 a week is almost like a paycheck. You should just talk to your mom and tell her to don’t be harsh with him since he is the father. You don’t have any other family members who could take y’all in?

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nervous_mama

Brandi BulginМама двоих (младенец)

No. They have their own lives and we'd rather live on our own. I applied for Section 8 but who knows when we'll get accepted

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cams

Cams Мама троих детей

Why can’t your mom just stop being so awful to your fiancé? Seems easier than moving out if she could just get her shit together and respect him.

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meaniehead

...Мама троих детей

I whole heartedly agree with this. OP, her [abuse] towards your fiance is toxic. Your children don’t need this type of negative influence in their life. It’s crucial your mother understands that there are boundaries and she’s crossed them. She shouldn’t be rewarded with the company of your children. Is there anyone else who could help?

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nervous_mama

Brandi BulginМама двоих (младенец)

We've tried talking through it but things don't change

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scream.queen

scream.queenМама двоих (7 лет, 8 лет)

Personally I wouldn't do that. That $450 a week would get you a rental house where I live. I would save up and get a place. Could you talk to your mom and let her know how it's bothering your husband?

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nervous_mama

Brandi BulginМама двоих (младенец)

Already have... Her house, her rules. She doesn't care

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