What would you ladies do if your own family mom shames you ?

Here’s some backstory ; I have 4 kids 12, 7, 5, and 1 . My 7yr old has odd, adhd , spd, and asd. (Sensory processing disorder and autism spectrum disorder) and my 5yr old has adhd . They are a handful . I’m also a stay at home mom ( I didn’t choose to stay home , financially it’s just better for us ) and I’m pregnant and homeschooling my 7yr old . My family mostly my older step siblings have made comments like : oh it’s not like you really work , you do nothing special you do what any other mother does , you didn’t have to qualify to be a mother you didn’t have to fill out a application. I have sacrificed everything to raise my children but I have to deal with those comments .