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So my 8 year olds dad came to pick him up the other day & I noticed he didn’t put on his seatbelt and I said something so he acts like he’s putting it on well his dad looked back and they take off and I can tell he didn’t put his seatbelt on!! So last night I said something to him about it and he goes I never wear my seatbelt with daddy 😳😳😳🤬😡🤬😡🤬 whattttt!!!! I said do you wear one with your grandma or grandpa he goes no 🤬😳🤬😳🤬😳 the hell!!! Idk how to handle this situation because if I say something they can lie and say that their going make him wear it so I was thinking maybe showing him videos of what happens when you don’t wear your seatbelt we have court order visitation
11.05.2019
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xryztalroze
xryztalroze
This is definitely a subject to talk to your son about. I think the videos are a good start. Explain to him that there are some rules that, no matter what a trusted adult says, are NOT ok to break. Explain to him that you know his Daddy says it's ok to go without and that sometimes Daddy may have different rules from Mommy, but in this case it's up to him to do the right thing and to always wear his seat belt. Don't make it into a Mom vs Dad subject. You will lose everytime and your son will quickly ignore your warnings. Stress the importance of seatbelts and why they are helpful. Help him learn about the reasons seatbelt wearing is mandatory. Talk to your ex as politely as you can and tell him that although you may parent differently and have different house rules that you really need to work as a team and make safety rules the same so you can both do your part in keeping your son safe. Make sure he understands you are not picking a fight or just being the "crazy ex"giving him a hard time but that this sincerely worries you. Find a way to communicate and ask him to please make sure your son is wearing his seat belt. If this does not work I would consider speaking to your attorney for further advice.
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angelhicks53
angelhicks53
I wish it was like that but he thinks everything is a argument even when I tell him what the doctors recommend because he’s overweight for his age and he’s seeing a psychiatrist and in his eyes I’m the one who’s ruining him he’s perfect and he knows everything and doctors know nothing so that might be a losing battle with him
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xryztalroze
xryztalroze
@angelhicks53 I'm sorry to hear that. However you decide to approach this subject I pray your son stays safe and gets the help he needs in all areas of his life. I also hope and pray that he grows up to make you proud and that one day you and his father can get along well enough to truly work as a team for your son's sake. Hugs mama.
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angelhicks53
angelhicks53
@lakota-winyan, I showed him some videos and he said he would but I’m hoping he actually does it so I’ll have to tell him I seen him in a friends car and I seen he wasn’t wearing it
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lakota-winyan
lakota-winyan
I’d also install in the sons head that he HAS to wear it at all times, even though his dad and grandparents think it’s ok. I’ll let my son know the consequences of not wearing one also. Because it’s sad to know that no matter how many times you tell them to make him wear his belt, you never know if he is. If your son knows what can happen he may be more likely to buckle himself in whenever he is in a car.
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angelhicks53
angelhicks53
He definitely knows especially me always getting onto him about not thinking he’s going put it on with me but I honestly didn’t think it was that whole side of the family his grandma is very cautious like too much she’s the one that drives 5 mph when one snow flake hits and I know his dad drives fast 🤦‍♀️
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lakota-winyan
lakota-winyan
@angelhicks53, only way to make certain he’s wearing it at all times, if for him to be aware of it. I hope that side of his family figure it out. It’s scary and anything can happen in a second.
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supermomof4
supermomof4
That is so scary! I hope you figure something out. If the father didn’t listen I would call and report him after they leave. Let him get one of those big ass fines for it and see how much he does it after that.
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supermomof4
supermomof4
@angelhicks53, most cops are pretty good about being able to see people sneaking their seatbelt on as they are getting pulled over
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angelhicks53
angelhicks53
@supermomof4, yeah my cousin is a cop maybe I can ask him the best route to go I just don’t talk to him much
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supermomof4
supermomof4
@angelhicks53, that’s a good idea! It comes down to the safety of your son so I’d do anything
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