My SO/father of my unborn son just lost his mom a week ago today. He has nothing for our son. (Luckily I live with my mom and have everything I need for when we’re at her house) he just got a puppy and his checks haven’t been up to par to pay the bills. He also has his 16 year old brother to take care of. I’ve been trying to clean the house and what not but I just really don’t know when the right time is to start pushing to get his mind on track. I have no idea what I would do if I lost my mom which is some of why I’ve been letting him do his own thing on his own time, plus he’s a grown man and I don’t want to make him feel like a child. Part of this is just to vent but if you’ve made it this far I could use some advice...
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No need to comment being rude. I was NINE months pregnant and worried that he wasn’t going to have a sufficient amount of time with his newborn son. FYI. He didn’t. And now blames me for HIS actions. And we’re still working on him being an actual parent. I’m sure losing a parent is hard but missing out on your child’s life is worse. Death is part of life and we’re all going to lose our parents but it’s OUR responsibility to take care of the children we bring into this world.
Not to mention this was 2 weeks before our son was born. His mom was alive for my entire pregnancy and he didn’t even have a pack of diapers so get off my OLD ASS posts with your BS.
My so lost his mom 5 years ago and hes still not ok. I don't think they will ever be ok. Also don't push him if he's not ready. Let him come around on his own he just lost his world.
He’s been taking care of his brother their mom was kind of disabled and didn’t work so they got assistance. So now he doesn’t qualify for the assistance. He hasn’t been to work and his brother hasn’t been to school and I’m 9 months pregnant always cleaning the house cause it was disgusting just worried about when it an appropriate time to try to help get things back into gear. I get the support an animal provides but he can’t support himself his brother or our unborn son let alone this brand new puppy. Plus he’s the type that doesn’t talk just says don’t worry. So should I not worry or ignore that and continue to give him space and time? I mean the world doesn’t stop and bills don’t care what people are going through.
It's only been a week. Losing a parent is difficult and it's especially hard on him since he now has to raise his youngest brother. Maybe the puppy is a coping mechanism since dogs are often support animals.
Try talking to him and help him through the situation. Work together to better the situation. Did his mom own a house or rent an apartment? Money could become tighter and he could be working less because he has to make sure his brother stays on track.
I lost my Dad 6 months ago, I'll never be ok. I think you need to chill, it's been a WEEK. You sound REALLY insensitive. The world may not have actually stopped but I promise HIS world feels like it has.