How to Set Boundaries with a Godchild's Overwhelmed Mother?
ADVICE NEEDED!!! My husband & I are the Godparents of a 1 year old boy. We don't have kids yet but soon. We have helped take care of him since the day he was born. His mother complains all the time she needs time to herself away from her husband & child. She will drop my Godson off & leave him days at a time to hangout with her friends. Come back pick him up & bring him right back to my house. We absolutely love him but my husband & I are exhausted! I have been in & out of the hospital & my husband is tired. The situation is causing us to argue. We are his Godparents not a free 24 hour 7 days a week daycare. How can I tell her in a nice way we can't keep keeping him everyday because we have a life as well while she is out doing nothing but hanging with her friends when she should be his mother? #myfirstpost
Rikki🌙·
Just tell them. Nothing better than being blunt.. then there is no confusion and you have definitely gotten your point across.
MassMomma16·
Tell her exactly that! You and ur husband need your time together. Say you wouldn’t mind having him every other Saturday (or whatever you decide) IF you don’t have plans and she needs to check with you first.
Emily·
Tell her that godparents are chosen so that they can take care of the baby in the case that something happens to the parents. Not so they can take the baby whenever the parents just don’t feel like doing it. That’s incredibly rude and careless of her to assume you’re both okay with being last minute babysitters that often. Where is her husband during all of this?
jenna tess·
So irresponsible of her!
I would tell her In person - not over text - that you can only now take him every other weekend (or whatever days you feel work for you.). In reality, you’re doing so much! From what you say, you’re seeing him more than his own family!
I would just be honest and say “these days work best for us as we have a lot going on, and need to follow a schedule rather than just play it by ear these days.”
Cmjohnson3047·
Don't sugar coat shit just tell her the same way u just told us.....its sad that she's doing this but it needs to end