Okay so debate.... Lol Me and one of my male friends were conversing about this today.

I just feel it’s automatic to give the fathers name since it doesn’t change

I would. My step son has our last name not his moms and he was born out of wedlock.

I kept my first son with my maiden name because I knew the guy wouldn’t have any part of my child’s life.

With my second I gave him my partner’s last name even though we weren’t married at that time.

I mean it's really your preference and situation. Like if the father is not going to be around or involved then I wouldn't but if he is then I think it's fine to give him the last name. Just because he is there and he had part in making the child and for a man that's big especially when it's a son when he's grown he will carry on the name.

My daughter has my last name. We did it because no one believed she was his until the DNA test came back that we paid for.

My mother always taught me if we were not married then you hyphenate your name, my kids have two last names

Depends on the relationship. My friend gave her son her last name because her and the father were still early in their dating relationship. They had made no future plans together before getting pregnant.

On the other hand. I have my birth father's last name and both my brother and I were conceived during a very rocky patch in their 7 year marriage. They divorced soon after I was born and I haven't seen him since.

So I say it depends on the relationship.

It honestly depends on the relationship you have with the father of the child as well as how much he is willing to be a part of your child’s life.

I think it just depends on the situation

I gave my son my bfs last name. I feel he’s the dad so why not let him have his last name 🤷🏻‍♀️ plus I plan on marrying him one day

I think it depends on the situation my SO and I aren't married but we have been together since junior high. Our kids both have his last name. Our son has the same exact name as him. We have loved together for almost 8 years now. But my sister's baby has her last name. Her dad wouldn't even sign the birth certificate. He's a POS tbh and I'm glad she didn't give her his last name. He's actually going to be signing his rights over. I think of the father is active in the child's life and is a good parent it should be the dad's last name. But if not it should be the mother's.

For those who gave your maiden name....what happens when/if you get married? Your kid will have your maiden name