I think the key thing is you were raised a certain way that your ex and current were not. What you’d expect to be normal is not normal for them, and you can’t really hold that against them. Every household has their own set of rules and even their own “culture. “ What you do, how you act, and even what you eat and how you eat is totally different from someone else’s family. I think understanding that you’re different from each other and respecting that will help you overcome your hurt feelings. What if you saying I love you when you are both upset insults him? What if he felt you just say it bc you’re “used to it” rather than actually meaning it ? ( not saying this is true. Just saying what if from his POV).

I am completely the opposite. My husband and I don’t say it (verbally) daily. We show it daily. Only time we say it daily is when he is out of town in training. I’m more about action than words.

I personally always say I love you and my husband says it back but is never the first to say it. It doesn’t bother me because my dad only told me twice in my life and my grandpa never said it once yet they love me more than life itself and proved it everyday by showing their love. Some men just aren’t vocal about it but instead prove love through actions. If I had to choose I’d prefer the actions

I feel like it’s pretty normal for guys. When my husband is mad at me he just shuts down/silent treatment which drives me crazy!

We never let I love you go unsaid...you just never know in life. Discuss that with him though! He needs to know