How do you separate your family life from your significant other and you. And should they be…
How do you separate your family life from your significant other and you. And should they be separate. I think family life is about the family but you also need that alone time I'd say once a.week at the least to spend time together without your kids or things going on. Just the two of you to talk and to have a relationship. Especially if you're dating. The dating should never stop. Even when married.
Where’s Waldo·
Do you mean have a date night?
Amanda··
Мама двоих (1 год, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
No. Just separate each other.
Amanda··
Мама двоих (1 год, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
My so is good and trying for the family but when it comes to me and me alone he seems to not want to spend time with me.
dawn·
My husband is my family. We have alone time nightly. We had alone time with just us two for 8years. We don’t feel like we need time away from our kids to keep the spark alive. My kids been in bed for 3 hours and we are going to bed down now to. I guess we are odd. Lol
Where’s Waldo··
We do this too. We get alone time when the kids sleep.
dawn··
we don’t to babysitters so it works great for us. Plus it helps us stay in a strict bedtime schedule
Where’s Waldo··
I very rarely have a babysitter (once a year maybeeeee) and even then it’s family. We just make it work.
Holly·
Мама троих детей
We make sure all our kids go to bed at the same time every night. (Their own rooms, minus the baby in pack-n-play asleep in our room) Then we head upstairs with food in tow, watch all our shows together, and most definitely have sexy time. This is our Monday-Friday routine We feel so connected and all our emotional/physical needs are met! We get 3-4 hours of just us.
Amanda··
Мама двоих (1 год, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
Sounds like a good connection. There is no problem with kids in bed at the same time. That's with my kids too. We just spend every single apart. Me upstairs him downstairs. No matter how much I say and express for this relationship to last there has to.be communication (because a lot of time we aren't on the same page) and us time. But he says how he spends time with me all day. But that's with the kids and focused on the kids. It's not with just the two of.us which I think should be completely different. He doesn't get it or understand
Holly··
Мама троих детей
I’m so sorry!! May I ask how old he is? My husband didn’t use to spend so much time with me until he matured more! 💓
Amanda··
Мама двоих (1 год, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
he's 38..
XryztalRoze·
@hollyn216 @anicole3285 Maturity does have alot to do with it, on both sides. He needs alone time and you need time alone with him. We each have our own level of comfort in a relationship. I go through needy periods and he goes through times when he is overwhelmed with work and responsibilities and just needs to be at home doing his own chores without kids and wife to interfere. But like PP said alone time after the kids are asleep is key. Even if it's only 30 minutes. We can't have all the time with our spouses we want when we have a whole family. We have not been truly alone since Dd2 was born but we make the most of the time we have together. And I enjoy the moments with the kids the most. Unfortunately as adults there is more to relationship than just time together. I hope you will find your balance and regain your happiness.