OB Doctor’s Appointments with ex? NEED ADVICE!!
My ex is now insisting he comes to my prenatal doctor’s appointments. He paid for half of my deductible and now feels entitled to everything involving the doctor. We haven’t spoken or seen each other in over 2 months. He is a narcissist and I was advised by my therapist to avoid him as much as possible unless it was regarding the baby. I personally don’t feel comfortable with him going 😒
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Hi I am into my 15 week now But since last two days am not having good feeling....I just feel something is wrong inside wid d kid...all my symptoms r too less Morning sickness is gone....Metallic taste of my tounge is also less....and I feel pain in my abdoman twice or thrice which is very minor though What should i do i am very confused Already have gone through 5 scans because of changing gynec Just feel that untill i hear the heartbeat or see my kid i wont b ok....got sleepless nights
did every ones SO go to EVERY dr appointment with them?? im at my appointment and its not an ultrasound or anything so i told my boyfriend he can stay home and sleep... im here and everyone has their guy with them.. im feeling lonely now:/
Question. I just left my husband for cheating and now hes been harassing me. Hes threatening to come get our son. I dont care if he sees his son but I'm not comfortable with him leaving with him bc hes never taken care of him a day In his life and he might use him against me. Am I wrong for feeling this way??
So I finally kicked him out because I'm tired of getting yelled at for expressing my feelings. I literally feel dumb for wasting my time. But now he took my car.
Penelope ·
Мама сына-младенца
Protect your privacy. Don’t want him there don’t tell him. Ask if you can record the heartbeat and send it in a text. Just update through text how the appointment went.
Madi M.·
В ожидании первенца
I would allow him to go to ultrasounds but other than that you need to be comfortable at your appointments. You're going to have a lot of questions and a lot of decisions to make for you and your baby. You shouldn't have to feel like you can't make your own decisions because he is there.
dawn·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года)
He probably just wants that leverage on you.
Buneeh ·
Мама подростка, беременна (27 нед.)
I don’t think there is a requirement that legally he is allowed to accompany your appointment just because he paid for it or because he is the father. You have privacy rights. It’s called HIPPA. In fact your OB and the clinic cannot disclose any information regarding your medical treatments or diagnosis without your consent and permission. They won’t even do it unless you signed something and they have that paperwork on file. That’s how serious it is and that’s how entitled you are to your privacy.
Buneeh ··
Мама подростка, беременна (27 нед.)
@angiechz, If you’re considering it out of the goodness of your heart I’d maybe consult with your OB and let them know of your situation. Maybe you can have an agreement with the Ob that they can see you separately for first half of appt and invite him in on second half where it’s just that ultrasound part or something like that. For my pregnancy the one question they asked me is if I was in an abusive relationship or if I was feeling coerced or fearful in any way at home. OB clinics are well aware pregnant women are often in delicate situations and need help but may not know how to ask for it.
Kayyyy·
Мама сына-младенца
He has a right to go to anything that involves his baby unfortunately. Keep it short and sweet. Take separate cars. Meet there and part ways after. No need to do much conversing at the doctors appointments. Be cordial, and let him know ahead of time of the time and location of the appointment. Then just avoid him about everything else. Good luck, you’ll be okay
Yo mama·
Мама четверых детей
Well ob appointments are about his baby too. So.... I say practice putting your feelings aside and start your coparenting journey now. You’re going to have to do it for the rest of your life.
Kimberly ·
Мама двоих (3 года, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
You need to be comfortable at your appts. If need be tell him you haven’t scheduled anything or you’re waiting for the office to call back to schedule your next appt or something so he doesn’t know when it’ll be.
💎Jade💎·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (21 нед.)
If your not comfortable then don't take him. You don't have to take anybody. Him paying half the deductible was just a favor but doesn't mean he HAS to be at the appointment. You and your baby don't need anymore stress.