So my brother is 28 years old his gf is 22 and theyve been together for 2 months. He lives with my mother and she comes and stays sometimes. My mom told me last night she got in the middle of a big fight they had bc she feels like he needs to grow up, whuch he does, and stop playing trading card games like Magic and he feels like she should stop smoking cigarettes and take care of her body more. Honestly i dont think its right for them to bring my mother into their problems and im sick of my brother using my mother and other people so he has an excuse to not grow the eff up. Ive been biting my tongue lately and last night just super pissed me off. I dont think its my business but whenever i say something to him about his shit he actually tries to straighten up but i feel like i shouldnt have to. Im 25 years old, married and a mother. Hes 28 years old, has no car, lives with my mother and acts like the world owes him everything. I shouldnt have to be his mother and knock some sense into him but my mothers too nice for his shit and shes being used by him and im about to blow up about it. Hes using her house, her car, eating her food, using her money. Urgh.
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Maybe talking to your mom & getting her to understand she needs to stop babying him & stand her ground with him would work. I did that with my mom & then once she did stand up to my brother & kicked him out for good. I was the one to pack his shit & put it outside for him to pick up (mostly cause I was at her house at that time). It’s hard when older siblings are like that. My brother is 11 years older than me & I watched my mom take his bs & make excuses for him most of my life. She still deals with his bs sometimes cause she has custody of my niece & he gets visitation sometimes but I remind her she can now just hit that magic red button on the phone & doesn’t have to deal with him when he starts with her.
I have shes too nice. She doesnt realize shes not doing him any good. He has no sense of responsibility. Hes like 16 when he should be a grown ass man. I dont care much if he has a significant other or is a father at his age but he should be on his own and at least have an effing car. Like wtf? I busted my ass with my husband to create a life for us but my brothers lazy and doesnt want to grow up. On top of all that hes also a drug addict and claims he doesnt have a problem. Hes just acting like a real piece of work right now and im usually quiet about it but i have my daughter whos going to be old enough to look up to her uncle and im not having her witness his shit. Shes 6m now so hes not really around when she is but i dont need him influencing her when she gets older. I really will lose my shit then.