Does anyone not celebrate holidays with family that is close by??? I know holidays are about…

Does anyone not celebrate holidays with family that is close by??? I know holidays are about families but every single holiday my mother in law makes it so complicated and I always get the short end of the stick. I'm over it. I know it's not fair but with my family it's simple we ear dinner around 4 pm for every major holiday and have a family reunion on the fourth of July. My fiance's family changes the plans every year ( mainly to cater to my brother in law and his family) and we're just expected to show up and do what they say. It stresses me out and my fiance is such a push over that I'm just expected to deal with it too. I don't even want to celebrate with them anymore they've taken the fun out of it.