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Lori 🍕

I broke down at my moms house today ... because of the debt we owe and Passover is coming and it’s a…

I broke down at my moms house today ... because of the debt we owe and Passover is coming and it’s a very expensive holiday ... it was just way too much .... my mom i guess told my brother that I’m suffering and he called me over and asked me why i didn’t just ask for help, and offered to help when i need it . And gave me basically 4K to help for the month and if i need more to ask ... now one thing about me , is that i will suffer silently and won’t ask for help.... I’ve always been that way. Deff thankful for my family atm.

I will start to do eBay too . I have stuff i can sell... anything to help out alittle help my husband ... whatever i can do.

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love_linds

Lindsey

I can’t imagine.

Have you considered pulling the boys from school until they’re kinder age to save money from that? My 4.5yr old has never attended a daycare/preschool bc I just felt like it was such a waste. I use our local libraries free play groups/music groups/science classes as his replacement & it doesn’t cost a thing. I also work with him about 2hrs a day at home with little workbooks from Amazon.

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

Nah that’s one thing i think i would never do , they learn so much more then i can teach them and their socializing and i can’t myself handle them lol they need a set schedule . I’ll do whatever i can to get my kids the best education they can get . They happen to be in a very good preschool , they know so much , and Gabriel actually improved his talking a lot the teacher helps him with it too.

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ek_

The EK 💁🏼‍♀️

I agree about keeping the kids home. I wouldn’t send a kid for pre-k until the year before kindergarten, unless there are extenuating circumstances. Before that year prior to kindergarten it’s just daycare, no matter how many people call it school. It’s not necessary if it’s not something you can afford. I say this as an elementary teacher & a very strong supporter of early childhood education. There are so many free activities that can be done at home with time & effort.

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love_linds

Lindsey

that’s what we do. My oldest & youngest are in play group that is 3hrs long once a week that include a preschool schedule of play/craft/story/music/snack that’s free through our local library. We go the museum once a week. Go to music twice a week (free @ library). And science once a week (free @ library). My oldest does tball twice a week as well. And just from working with him on those workbooks & some homeschooling tips from experienced moms, he’s passed his age group in most things & has started working on 2nd grade curriculum books. At this point I think he’d be bored with pre-k. Lol And it was very little effort on my end, other than driving them places. Children absorb so much, so easily.

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

yeah i just don’t have the energy and thank gd it’s once thing that we have covered

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ek_

The EK 💁🏼‍♀️

Right! It really doesn’t take much effort at all 😊

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

Is it the food costs for Passover that’s worrying? I know cooking without grain is challenging for me on Passover. We only observe on high holidays, because I don’t know how I could (or afford) to keep kosher on the reg.

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

oh my gosh

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

so much medical debt before the ACA allowed us to get insurance for me

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celiesmommy01

Kira

Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (14 нед.)

I have always been that way too.

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

Also as a Shiksa Passover is the worst holiday for me because I love kugel 😆😆

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

@mrsmord, I need to make some kugel. It’s been awhile.

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rschome

rschome

I just had a blonde moment....I just read this as Kegel....maybe I should go back to bed 😂

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

@arkycanchaser, 😆😆😆😆😆

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

Also your brother is the best!!!! Is he single and in his 40’s? I have a sister. Whose not Jewish 😆

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

@mrsmord, wellll that’s not happening 😆😆😆😆😆

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sweetsap

sweetsap

😂😂 keep dreaming, a nice Jewish guy will almost always require a conversion, or find himself a nice Jewish woman, but you're very kind considering your sis like that

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squishymommy1

squishymommy1

i landed me one without conversion 💁🏼‍♀️💁🏼‍♀️😆😆

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sweetsap

sweetsap

How does Passover work? If you can't afford it, are you expected to participate in it at that level, or is it an event of sentiment?

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

You have to flip ur entire kitchen , clean deep clean and rid ur house of things considered chometz which is bread and the like . Flour, wheat etc . There’s a lot to it and u have to buy new food for the kitchen ( things that are kosher for Passover ) it’s a lot .

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sweetsap

sweetsap

yikes!

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sherrynygirl

sherry S

What an amazing brother you have ! Can I ask you were you hosting Passover at your home coming up? I know your planning to move as well soon and having a new baby soon too. The most important thing is your children are healthy and happy that’s priceless! You should focus on your little family and living by what your family needs .”needs and wants are different “ budgeting helps a lot . In many families for holidays everybody brings food and comes together as one . So your not overwhelmed doing it all alone. Maybe go over a plan with your husband to budget better . Daycares I know are costly too.

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

I’m not hosting it , it’s just Ganna be me my husband and kids . But i still need to buy a whole bunch of food and meat . And flip the kitchen.

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sherrynygirl

sherry S

I rem for many yrs in Brooklyn they offer high holidays buffet at many centers for families at dif temples “it is a mitzvah to feed other’s so that is helpful to many families .

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mamaof2soon

Leopard

I know what you mean I’m invited every year to my kids father place for Passover and they want us to pay a lot of money because they gotta buy so much food

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bunsinmyoven

BunsInMyOven

How does your husband feel about you taking that money from your brother??

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

@phoebesmommy, we budget ourselves in the sense of extra things we don’t need . We discuss what we need and what we spend . And if we need something extra we see if we can cover it . But some things aren’t a choice and it’s isn’t cheap either . We will figure it out . We always do . The only thing we actually spend is waxing , otherwise it’s al things to live . If we happen to have extra then we either put it in the bank or pay whatever needs paying off .

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bunsinmyoven

BunsInMyOven

regardless, you can budget the things you “need” to live. You have time, start budgeting and planning out your groceries and meals.

I’m just saying, if this is something you continually talk and post about and you recently complained ab the lack of communication in your marriage... it’s time to buckle down and get to work.

The extra burden you can relieve from your husband by simple planning and thinking ahead can save you SO MUCH MONEY. I kid you not. It’s just being willing to live with less. If you’re not, then you’re most likely going to have to file bankruptcy one day OR you’re going to need thousands of dollars of help from family which is going to hurt your marriage even more obviously.

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

@phoebesmommy, yup

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sherrynygirl

sherry S

Your husband should help you prepare the home too it s never just one person s job holiday or not

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

Lol he’s never even home

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love_linds

Lindsey

I can’t imagine.

Have you considered pulling the boys from school until they’re kinder age to save money from that? My 4.5yr old has never attended a daycare/preschool bc I just felt like it was such a waste. I use our local libraries free play groups/music groups/science classes as his replacement & it doesn’t cost a thing. I also work with him about 2hrs a day at home with little workbooks from Amazon.

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love_linds

Lindsey

@ek_, that’s what we do. My oldest & youngest are in play group that is 3hrs long once a week that include a preschool schedule of play/craft/story/music/snack that’s free through our local library. We go the museum once a week. Go to music twice a week (free @ library). And science once a week (free @ library). My oldest does tball twice a week as well. And just from working with him on those workbooks & some homeschooling tips from experienced moms, he’s passed his age group in most things & has started working on 2nd grade curriculum books. At this point I think he’d be bored with pre-k. Lol And it was very little effort on my end, other than driving them places. Children absorb so much, so easily.

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

@ek_, yeah i just don’t have the energy and thank gd it’s once thing that we have covered

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ek_

The EK 💁🏼‍♀️

Right! It really doesn’t take much effort at all 😊

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bunsinmyoven

BunsInMyOven

@mrsmord, everyone needs a budget. And if you cannot afford to pay rent or buy food... is it worth going into debt over things that are completely out of your budget??

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

I don’t enjoy waxing lol , but he wouldn’t let me stop . And i can’t have him turned off by me either .

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mrsmord

Lori 🍕

I actually found a cheaper waxing place and closer so i can save money on gas and tolls . Since he wouldn’t want me to stop because of obvious reasons so I’m at least saving some

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bunsinmyoven

BunsInMyOven

that’s good at least LOL

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