Okay I have a question. My sister in law has not had any insurance on her kids since her oldest was 2(now 5) and her youngest since 6 months(he is now 2) they haven’t been to any doctors appointments she thinks taking them to the ER every now and then is a check up. Her son also has something wrong with his private area and every time I see him it they grow bigger.. She will not get them on insurance, and she says they are fine. My question is can’t she get in trouble for not having insurance on her kids? They also do not have any type of birth certificate, or ssc for them. Also he daughter can down a 2 liter soda and is in 10/12 in clothes already. When I talk to her she blows off our conversation and says I need to mind my own business. But that is my family. So it is my business.
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They won't give your mom custody unless she kicks them both out. Whoever has custody of the kids has to live separately from the parents. I think if your mom is really interested in protecting her grandchildren she needs to kick your brother and your sister-in-law out of her house. Then she needs to let them know that they need to give her custody of the kids by signing over their rights to her or else she's going to get CPS involved. You and/or your sister can take the children in while your mom deals with your brother and your sister-in-law to get them out of her house. I think the three of you...your mom, your sister and yourself need to have a serious talk and have a plan in place to protect your niece and nephew. It won't be easy, but those children deserve to live happy, healthy lives.
@oceanhalo, I have told her this so many times. And she says she is going too. I believe I am having a talk with them tomorrow and if nothing has changed by Monday I am giving cps a call.
@lefurgeymom I think you should start making room in your house for your niece and nephew and asking your sister to do the same. You are truly an angel on earth to these children...and their only saving grace it seems. I wish you the best because this is going to be a tough situation but just remember that those children have no one to protect them and everything you're doing, as hard as it may seem, is to save those children's lives 💜
If she's got a 5-year-old then her daughter should be starting Kindergarten this upcoming school year, which us usually Aug/Sept. She needs to have a current Physical Exam and Immunizations or an approved Medical reason why her daughter's immunizations aren't up to date... Meaning she needs to take her to the Pediatrician for a Physical Exam....Has she talked about enrolling her 5yr old into school yet?
@lefurgeymom She can't just not send her daughter to school...She has to either enroll her and have her attend public school or have her enrolled in some type of Homeschooling that she is abiding by...I don't know all the laws that pertain to age requirements for each state and/or Homeschooling....but she just can't keep her 5-year-old at home and not give her an education and not have her obtaining regular health exams. Honestly, in this case, I think I would be comfortable calling CPS on her.
Also, I'm assuming if she's not taking her to the doctor she's not taking her daughter to the dentist either. Someone needs to check up on those kids and make sure they're okay. Your poor nephew, it sounds like something is terribly wrong with his groin area... I can't believe she hasn't taken him to the doctor!
@oceanhalo, Nope she just came off a pacifier!!! And you can’t understand a word she says. Her teeth are falling out she don’t brush them. Yes he needs to go ASAP, but she won’t let anyone take him.
@lefurgeymom Does your sister-in-law have some kind of mental illness? Is she on any drugs? Where is the children's Father in all of this? I can't understand why she wouldn't want to take her son or allow anyone offering to take her son to the doctor. Does she let you come over to where they live? Something's not right there, I think you and your family (or you alone if no one us willing to step up and protect your niece and nephew) should speak about setting up a plan for the children and then calling CPS on her....if they remove the children maybe You or one of your family members can take the children into your own care. Something really bad could happen to your nephew, I don't want to say he can die... but whatever is going on in his groin area is very concerning! And if you're poor nieces teeth are falling out and she can't clearly speak at 5 years old because of it... that is a very obvious sign of neglect.
Worth a shot to call especially if you've seen something medically wrong. That's crazy
Yes I have been thinking here lately it’s time to call after I have tried talking to her more than 3 times about it. He will hold himself and walks funny because of his balls being so swollen.
@lefurgeymom Yep! I'd call and document EVERYTHING she says about it. Maybe text her so you have written proof of it not being handled. That's crazy..poor thing they probably hurt so bad
@rmreed, I have a few text back and forth with her about it.
Okay, someone else told that they could take them too. I wasn’t real sure if they could or what could happen.
@lefurgeymom you can call or someone else can call and theyll investigate and take the kids if they feel the mom is neglecting or abusing them but she will be given the chance to do classes and a chance to get them back.
Oh okay gotcha! Thank you girl!!
i dont think anyone but the legal gaurdians can get insurance on the kids. id think that would be fraud if its not the legal gaurdians and kids dont live with th policy holder
Oh okay, so basically if they wanted to get insurance on them they would have to possibly get full custody of them? Maybe? I don’t know how any of that works. But I do know a lot of people who know the situation and how those kids are being raised that child services needed to be called.
@lefurgeymom basically. they cant do anything legally without some kind of legal custody or agreement with the mom. that includes insurance, school stuff like enrollment, dr appointments, any kind of public assistance like medicaid or foodstamps theyd have to have custody.
Oh okay, I didn’t know what they could do if someone else got it for them. My sister is trying to get it on them but she refuses to let anyone get them on insurance.
Some kids are just bigger. And no it’s not a requirement to have insurance. But things should be looked at if something is wrong. But unless there’s true neglect there isn’t much you can do unfortunately.
@lefurgeymom, well I’m glad they are with others who can care for them. It sucks she won’t step up and be a parent.
@whereswaldo, That it does. I am glad they have my mom and sister but I also worry about the youngest child. He has a medical issue but can’t see a doctor because no insurance. She took him to the ER but they told her he needs to see a pediatrician.
@lefurgeymom I just saw this... that your mom has her daughter and your sister has her son...I think your mom and your sister should sit down with her and have a serious conversation about her giving up her rights to them... They need to tell her that she needs to give up her rights to them or else they will call CPS on her. I know it sounds harsh, but she can't expect for your mom and sister to take care of her children and then not allow them to provide healthcare or dental care and even schooling! If she doesn't want her kids to obtain healthcare, dental care, or schooling then she has no right to be raising them, the children should be taken from her.
i mean its best for the kids to have insurance but i dont believe she can get in any legal trouble
@unicornprincessx3 idk how all that works. i know each state has different guide lines i just know as far as not having insurance that its not a requirement and for anyone to get insurance for her kids they have to have some legal custody or agreement with the mom.
My bother is in the kids life, they are married very toxic marriage. They fuss and fight a lot. My mom has a hole in the wall where she pushed him into the wall.. He lets her do whatever she wants honestly he isn’t any better than her. He says he wants to leave her but he is all y’all no action. They live with my parents, my mom takes care of the little girl and my father who has a mind set of a 3 year old. My sister has her son. She has been in the mental hospital because she told her daughter she was going to kill her self in front of her. It was crazy. My mom wants to get custody. But I don’t know is she can with them living with her.