It's real sad when you start to connect with someone and then you start talking about how you fed…
It's real sad when you start to connect with someone and then you start talking about how you fed your child and just because I breastfed my son it's an issue and she feels judged. Like lady I don't care how you fed your kid. I didnt go. "Well you know I breastfed because breast is best!" I didn't ask if she didn't ever try. I didn't make a single comment. She asked if I used formula. I said. "Oh I breastfed, but we supplemented the first month with formula because he needed the extra calories." And all the sudden I get "oh..." And so I asked her if she used formula or breastfed since she didn't state if she did or not. And she said I was judmental for asking and she didn't want to hear about breastfeeding being better or whatever. I literally could not care any less how you feed your children okay. As long as they're fed. I breastfed because it was right for me, I could do it successfully, and it saved us a lot of money. Do I think it has its perks? Sure I do. I've experienced them first hand. But if you don't want to breastfeed I'll support that 100%, it's your body, your baby, your life, do what's right for you. It's not my place to judge how you feed your kid. I'm just so frustrated that people feel like they can't be friends with me because they assume I'm some kind of breastfeeding Nazi or something that's going to shame then for not breastfeeding. I know it goes both ways too. I've gotten people who looked at me like I have two heads when I mention having breastfed for two years. I've gotten "formula is easier. Why go through the trouble?" And other comments. I just don't understand why, just because we fed our kids differently, that we can't be friends. She just automatically assumed I was a certain kind of person even though I gave her no reason to believe I was. Must be uncommon to meet someone who literally doesn't care about the differences in parenting styles.
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Don’t let it get to you, people will get butthurt over anything 🤦🏻♀️ everyone’s too sensitive now a days.
dawn·
It sounds like her own personal problem. Don’t worry about it.
MoT·
As a Mom who exclusively pumped for one child because she wasn't strong enough to feed and then could only breastfeed my son 3 months due to my own personal medical issues I can tell you that it isn't about you. She just has so much guilt and anxiety about not being able to do it that she feels judged because she is being judged... By herself. It has nothing to do with you. Every time someone asks me about it or talks about it I have to fight back tears. It hurts so bad. It has nothing to do with that person, it has everything to do with my judgment about myself. Some people sadly can't recognize that in themselves and it is easier to blame others. I'm sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve to be treated that way. The person who was being judgemental was her and she shut the door on a friendship because of it. Her life must be pretty lonely and she lost a mom ally.
Kristen ·
Мама троих детей
Don't worry about her. I hate when people get butthurt over stupid things. I've accidentally upset people then I find out i'm blocked lol whatever. As long as the baby is taken care of and getting what they need we shouldn't judge each other. I bottle fed because it was what was right for my situation and I'll be your friend anyday. I've been bashed for choosing that path that's when I get upset but if we both agree fed is best there is no reason to have a problem.
Beaky Mcspence·
В ожидании первенца
Her reaction would imply she feels guilty, and that’s why she lashed out. It’s very possible she has some issues or negative feelings surrounding the topic. I’d not worry it’s not you.
Nikita ·
Мама сына (2 года)
Awww, that's not right! And you sound like me. But I didn't get to breastfeed my son because of my medicine and I can't stop taking it. Some people are just different in how they parent and that's okay. Message me anytime girl! 😊 I don't judge because I don't want to be judged!
Kristina·
Многодетная мама (7 детей)
Sounds like she’s insecure over the whole situation maybe she wanted to bf but couldnt 😬 it’s ok I wouldn’t stress you don’t need an unsupportive friend anyway