So sick of my brother. He is 29 years old and still lives with my parents. Has a job but no car. His girlfriend is 22 years old, a car and a place of her own. Hes constantly complaining that he doesnt have his life together and says that i live a good life and am already established at 25. Idk how to tell him that he needs to grow up without being rude. My husband and i have been together 10 years and we worked our butts off to be where we are now so that we can be established and give our daughter everything at our age. Ik people grow at different rates but this December hell be 30 years old and hes still living with my folks. Am i wrong to tell him he needs to grow up? Or should i just leave it alone? The only reason im angry is hes constantly taking jabs at me that somehow i was privileged and he wasnt when we grew up in the same way with the same parents in the same house. Like..?