But seriously, even if you never breastfeed even a single ounce, you are still a good mom! And tell the haters that ling term studies show no significant differences in longterm health outcomes for breastfed vs formula fed kids. Honestly, if breastfeeding wasnt so much cheaper I'd probably formula feed this 2nd kid.

You are NOT a bad mom if you formula feed!!! What jerks for people to tell you that! I breastfed, pumped, and supplemented with formula for my first. I was not in love with breastfeeding, but it is so much cheaper than formula, so that's one plus. I didnt mind pumping, but I e heard that it's hard to keep up your supply if you exclusively pump. The upside of pumping is you k ow exactly how many ounces you're giving your kiddo. It's hard to know when your breastfeeding how much they are getting. Have you considered pumping during the day and just nursing once or twice at night? That may help keep your supply up, but you can still pump mostly. And if none of those are options formula is still an option and its TOTALLY okay. Your baby needs you to be a sane mom more than they need your breastmilk, and if breastfeeding if going to make you insane or stressed, it's not worth it.

Obviously I haven't pumped or even breastfed yet, but I just want to tell you whatever you decide is okay! However you can work it so you have a happy healthy baby is the important thing. As a childcare provider I worked with so many mom's who beat themselves up about not breastfeeding. Whether it be because supply was too low, scheduling, ability to pump. Breastfeeding is essentially another job in itself. It's very time consuming for some mothers while others excel at it and have no issue fitting it in. You can always try it and plan to supplement with formula when you aren't able to pump, or the days your mom has her. Personally I plan on doing just that. Breastfeeding when I can, pumping if possible, and then if need be or if I just want a break, formula will be there as well. Even if you can just breastfeed the first few weeks so baby can get the colostrum that's amazing. If not, no biggie!

My advise is to just give everything your best shot and do what you can. It really isn’t up to anyone else what you decide to do.

Obviously breast feeding / expressing and giving them the milk is the best thing for the baby but life does get in the way! I breast fed as long as a could and expressed at the same time but it took a huge amount of time away from my son who needed to feel loved etc during such a huge change in his life. So I ended up expressing milk until it all dried up and gave my daughter what I could. If you don’t have the time to breast feed I’d recommend expressing what you’ve got until it runs down