Yall I just feel like the worst person right now. I feel like the worst mom. The worst…
Yall I just feel like the worst person right now. I feel like the worst mom. The worst girlfriend/fiance whatever. Like my 1st daughter turned 2 in November and I still haven't started potty training her yet and I know my family and his family judges me or has said something behind my back about it.. my 2nd daughter turns 18 months tomorrow and still isn't walking. I feel like a bad girlfriend cause I dont cook a lot and not because I dont want to but because outside of like 5 or 6 different meals I dont really know what to cook! I'm trying to get myself together and lose weight that's hard enough and I weighed myself today and I'm now 277 I have not been that big since I was pregnant. My bf had some issues that stress me out. It's like their isn't enough hours in a day. I still have to fold closes, finish cooking my meals, the kids need thier play time but they cant play if I'm cleaning they will just be in the way so they are having TV time.My money is funny and I always feel like what I do isn't good enough. I feel like I'm not doing enough. I feel like my bf feels I dont do enough. But I'm overwhelmed some days. I got on the scale this morning and it said 277 the last time I weighed in like 2 maybe 3 weeks ago I was 273.4. I gotta do better. I'm so upset.. my bf doesnt get any of it. He doesn't understand why I'm stressed out. It's just ugh...
And on top of it all I realized today the my bf never technically asked me to marry him. He said " it's time for me to call the justice of the peace and get the info on us getting married" he told me that on our 5th anniversary and I had got a lil money and we went and got out rings. But he never technically asked me and it never bothered me until now and maybe it because I'm so stressed out? Idk but I've just took that as we were engaged and u guess he did too or he just let me think that idk I were my engagement ring but maybe I'm just overthinking it.
LatinSpice·
Ok so first take some deep breaths. You're overwhelmed and when you're overwhelmed everything seems huge. My baby is 3 years old and she is just now ready to potty train. Every child will go at their own pace and it's no one else's place to judge for that. Your 18 month old is developing at her own pace as well. If you are concerned have you spoken to her pediatrician? They are the only one that should be giving you advice about her development. Now have you spoken to your fiance? Does he tell you he feels like you dont do enough? Sometimes we let our feelings clous how we thi k others feel about us when in reality we are judging ourselves through their eyes. The only way you know how he feels is to ask him how he feels. As for the clothing folding, can you make a game of it? I've been making games out of cleaning with my little since she was 2. Laundry is one she still helps me with i give her, her "pile" and she folds her stuff. I fold some, put away. Fold a little more, put away until all that's left is her little pile. It can help to make playtime and clean time into the same time.
Cooking. You cook what you know how to and add one new recipe a week. Use allrecipes, ask here, look on pinterest. Look up simple dinner recipes and you'll get a ton of results. As you make them write down the ones you like amd soon you'll have a bunch of recipes you can make.
We get so caught up in the small details and how we think others view us that we allow ourselves to become overwhelmed and depressed. You can do this mama.
Jelly··
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
You got this mama
Queen👑··
Thank u so much. I think the root of this all is my weight. It controls EVERYTHING, ITS CONSTANTLY IN THE BACK OF MY MIND yet I I still find myself going to taco bell or canes when we are short on food or dojt cook. I just really started to try to get my weight together so it's better I gain it now then in two weeks or a month when I'm all in. I cant talk to him about everything cause he's just not the type to share his feels until we get in a argument but I can definitely tell by his faces me makes. I told him today though and he didnt respond. He thinks I've got it easy and I'm probably overreacting. When I think about how long its gon a take to lose this weight (80-100) probably a year it stress me out. When sit down and try to make a meal plan and I cant come up with more then basics it stress me out. I dont understand why I cant just simply eat clean when I want to lose weight with everything in me!! Its so frustrating! It's just I'm trying to get myself on schedule and my kids and hard!! I think I need to go to counseling or something or maybe nutritionist. So talk about my feels and someone to help me lose weight. I just need more food ideas.
LatinSpice··
so losing weight can be simple. Eat less then ypur body burns daily. Don't start cutting stuff out right away. Get an app like my fitness pall and start logging what you eat daily to get a baseline on calorie consumption. Once you have that you have a good idea about how much you need to cut and what you need to cut. When i want to lose i drop to 1300-1400 calories daily. You may want to start higher and qork your way down as your body will slowly become accustomed to eating less. Get fooda that will fill you up and that your body won't burn through right away. I eat a lot of green veggies and brown rice because they keep me full for longer. I weighed 234 at my heaviest and qent to 187. I am back at 199 due to my own stress and negligence but i know i can lose it again. It will tae time but every pound lost you should see as a victory.