roxiebeauty2017
Tara
How to Handle Disrespectful Behavior Without Spanking?
🚨unpopular opinion 🚨
I fully disagree grumpy days fine bad days fine but disrespectful tones and bad behavior I know you’ve lost your mind nope nuh uh that’s a 1st degree in our home it isn’t tolerated because you can’t let your child be disrespectful you have to correct the behavior and bad behavior is the same thing they have to know what’s right and wrong and you can’t let it slide or they will never know now we don’t spank but we do do it like a “in court” situation cause I tell my kids all the time if you do something bad in the real world like steal kill or hurt someone sorry doesn’t cut it you get arrested and goto court then goto jail so we have our own system of that we’ll sit them down and ask them what they think is fair for their behavior (by fair what do they think I should take from them or what chore do they wanna take for that week) and we go from there because also spanking is a form of violence and we can’t teach our kids to not lash out violently when we’re showing them violence so spanking in our home is a no no it’s not right
I fully disagree grumpy days fine bad days fine but disrespectful tones and bad behavior I know you’ve lost your mind nope nuh uh that’s a 1st degree in our home it isn’t tolerated because you can’t let your child be disrespectful you have to correct the behavior and bad behavior is the same thing they have to know what’s right and wrong and you can’t let it slide or they will never know now we don’t spank but we do do it like a “in court” situation cause I tell my kids all the time if you do something bad in the real world like steal kill or hurt someone sorry doesn’t cut it you get arrested and goto court then goto jail so we have our own system of that we’ll sit them down and ask them what they think is fair for their behavior (by fair what do they think I should take from them or what chore do they wanna take for that week) and we go from there because also spanking is a form of violence and we can’t teach our kids to not lash out violently when we’re showing them violence so spanking in our home is a no no it’s not right
26.03.2019
2
Лучший комментарий
Комментарии
theharmans2018
Praising your form of punishment. 🖒
26.03.2019 Нравится Ответить
roxiebeauty2017
Thank you my theory is you have to give them a form of the real world so they are prepared for it
26.03.2019 Нравится Ответить
riasm85
You can have a "bad/grumpy" day and still be respectful. My dad was huge on showing love/being kind to others. So he was extremely understanding towards the ups and downs of our hormones and explained those stages to us even how he was able to relate to them during his younger years BUT no matter what I was going through I did not ever tell my dad..what, leave me alone or get out of my room because that is rude and pretty much disrespectful to speak to your parents like that. Trust me I had my days that I wanted to be alone but I didn't take it out on anybody because of how I was raised and the calm understanding my dad was always teaching us. He taught me to lead by example and that's what I'm giving my best to do now. I'm such a calm, collective, peaceful spirited person so I love teaching my girls the benefits of these qualities. I let them know it's ok to have those days that are just not going so well for you but any form of disrespect or bad behavior is not acceptable.
26.03.2019 Нравится Ответить
riasm85
@lakota-winyan but when you're a child especially a young child having a tone/attitude with your parents still is unacceptable. If they need a moment to chill take it but a child raising their tone or having a attitude with their parent is still a no go. I understand that it might happen and no one is perfect but it still doesn't make it acceptable.
As adults we use our judgment on what's the best way to communicate to our family. So as a parent/adult if I'm trying to set something in place and I keep having to repeat myself..yes I might change my tone because I'm the parent and that tone was best for that situation BUT a child having a tone/attitude just because they can...and a parent changing their tone to actually parent, are two different things.
As adults we use our judgment on what's the best way to communicate to our family. So as a parent/adult if I'm trying to set something in place and I keep having to repeat myself..yes I might change my tone because I'm the parent and that tone was best for that situation BUT a child having a tone/attitude just because they can...and a parent changing their tone to actually parent, are two different things.
26.03.2019 Нравится Ответить
lakota-winyan
@riasm85, guess I’m more lenient or something. I am not going to get mad at my kid because they have a bad day and you can tell by the tone of their voice. Now raising their voice is different. That will not be tolerated
26.03.2019 Нравится Ответить
riasm85
@lakota-winyan oh I'm VERY lenient and have never went ham on my oldest because of an attitude here or there. I just correct her so she knows it's not tolerated.
🙏😘
🙏😘
26.03.2019 Нравится Ответить
lakota-winyan
I think gummy days actually comes with disrespectful tones. Hand in hand. I know when I am having a bad day anyone “hey Dawn” me “WHAT?” It’s not that I am disrespecting or disrespectful. Especially a child who doesn’t quite know how to control their emotions... I tell my niece when she has a bad day and her tone isn’t pleasant. That it’s okay to have a bad day, and that it’s normal it happens to all of us. But she needs to avoid people until she’s in a better mood bc she’s a sweet girl just having a bad day and i don’t want people to Perceive her wrong. And that negative energy travels faster than positive energy. She listens and when he is feeling better apologizes.
26.03.2019 Нравится Ответить
Читайте также