Ladies I will admit my boyfriend and I we can be toxic besides what he has done to me and what I have done to him but if I'm gonna be stupid i would much rather be stupid for my best friend who has saved me from myself more times then i can count and i dont see anybody else being worth giving my all and having children with. Yes I do see what he did to me but I also see what he is trying so hard to do for me and our children he even goes to extremes to make sure I am happy and the babies are taken care of. I feel I do not deserve it but ladies I do beg you to see all the men of yours see what they do for you yes if they can be lazy or underestimate what we do but try to talk to them make them understand how you really feel and if you ask them to do something be specific dont assume they know exactly what you ask the 11 years and 2 children has taught me anything its patience and understanding now before anybody gets upset yes there are men that just sucks but at least then you can say I tried everything and I am not saying I am perfect cause God I know I am nowhere near it but a friend shared that with me and it has helped not alot but enough for me to suggest it so try it try being more specific when asking your man for chores to be done and look at the little stuff they really do whether its giving you a kiss or texting to check in or even checks into the kids when they get in late