I don’t understand why I’m always being treated like I’ve done something wrong with my s/o he spends…

I don’t understand why I’m always being treated like I’ve done something wrong with my s/o he spends all day gone and the time I do shave I have to deal with him being on the phone all night and Any time I open my mouth now he makes it into a problem. I feel like he’s only happy when I’m quite and at home with the kids waiting around for him. I’m really down today I hate that this is my new normal