I’ve never had siblings so I don’t know what’s “normal” for siblings. I feel guilty that I’m closer…
I’ve never had siblings so I don’t know what’s “normal” for siblings. I feel guilty that I’m closer to one of my sisters then the other 2. We talk all the time. Text everyday. She’s coming to visit this weekend and our oldest sister hasn’t talked to me since she found out about the visit 😑😒. The angry sister has been the one from the beginning to have a hard time accepting my existence and when I went to meet them all she was the least excited and didn’t even spend my birthday with me. Which hurt my feelings. Anywho so many complicated emotions.
Lanie Jay·
I'm closer to one of my sisters than the other. I think that's perfectly normal. I also think it's normal for another sibling to be jealous of that. You ladies will work it all out. Give it time.
squishymommy1··
My youngest sister doesn’t seem to have any jealousy about it. We text. She’s busy. She’s a manager for a long term memory care facility. So she has a demanding and emotionally draining job. Plus she’s just not a texter. The oldest sister has been really standoffish from the beginning. It’s not that I don’t want her to come visit because I do! She had said she was going to come visit with her tax money but she never really tried to plan a trip. My other sister did. But I also don’t think she’s ever gone to visit our littlest sister who lives in another part of the state. So maybe it’s just her too.
BunsInMyOven·
I always wonder about this w my girls since I have another on the way. What are your boys like??
squishymommy1··
The boys all get along. It’s the middle boy and only girl that make me want to pull my hairs out
If You Know, You Know🤷🏻♀️·
What do you mean went to meet them? Were you adopted or something?
If You Know, You Know🤷🏻♀️··
@squishymommy1, oh okay! My mom did this too, so I understand completely! She’s one of 13. And she’s suuuuppper close with only one of them.
squishymommy1··
wow! 13. That would be intense 😆😆😆
If You Know, You Know🤷🏻♀️··
for sure. I could tell you a lot more of what is some crazy shit! But I don’t feel comfortable doing it for everyone to see. Lol
Hakuna·
Is she the oldest?
squishymommy1··
The angry sister? Yes
Hakuna··
it's probably just petty jealousy. To her, you came outta left field, maybe "changed" the dynamics between the other sisters and her. Just give her time. And honestly that might help the situation. TIME.
BunsInMyOven·
Maybe she’s just adjusting since your existence changed the dynamics she is used to. I would try not to take it personally..you could just ask her if she’s doing ok or if there’s a reason for her silence
squishymommy1··
It feels like the most complicated thing 😆 and that’s probably the logical thing. Is asking why she’s so mad that my other sister is coming to visit. But I won’t because I’m still in the “afraid to step on anyone’s toes” stage 🤷🏼♀️
BunsInMyOven··
maybe she’s not even mad though. I’d be careful to try not to assume. You all have a lot of complicated feelings about it all.
I mean, you can kind of tell w female dynamics but maybe she doesn’t even understand her own feelings ab it all. Plus you seem like a strong communicative personality, is she the opposite??
squishymommy1··
@phoebesmommy, no she’s actually not the opposite. At least not with everyone else in her life. She gets in huge fights with our cousins on a regular basis and text battles with them and then they block each other and don’t speak for months 😆. Which I’m also not used to that level of drama. Which is fine, I just ignore it and have my separate relationships with the cousins.