So should I get the epidural or not? I’m tryna figure out something so I won’t tear a lot fr.

Getting the epidural had nothing to do with tearing. If you are worried about tearing I heard kegels (idk if that’s spelt right) help. But I swore I wasn’t going to get the epi and after 20 hours I gave in and got it.

Tearing will happen with or without the epidural. Epidural is to help with the pain and it helped me so much.

I got the epidural and I still tore alot

Some women tear and some don't. Thats just honestly how it is. I got an epidural with my son and thankfully because it was 8 hours and my daughter didnt even give me a chance for it to work. I was pushing as soon as they stuck the needle in my back and became numb after it was all done. I didnt tear with either of them and did nothing to prepare. Its kinda like the luck of the draw

Getting an epidural can cause you to actually tear more than without one because you don’t know how hard you are pushing.

I’ve also read of women having back pain later in life because of it.