Venting:
Gosh it's amazing how much credit a man gets for being a father, yet a lot of them won't lift a finger to help their child's mother during infancy and toddlerhood.
I get it most are head earners and need their rest and social times BUT mothers need a break to unwind, rest and have social time away from kids as well.
Its allowed because its expected of women and its frowned upon if she does want help. Putting aside mental health and physical wellbeing to also take care of a grown man.
Its frustrating reading posts that involve the father ignoring a crying baby laying next to him or won't make a bottle or won't watch the baby while mom showers and gets herself together.
Yet they want just as much credit as a mother gets.
@qd.sweet619 girl tell me about it it's cool though my girls know what I've done there old enough to know what's loyalty
@mrs.letty.luna That's awesome and also all that matters. Hats off to you girly!! I'm sure it's not easy but you're making a way.
I Soo get this I'm just glad I waited to have more kids after my 2 girls. With a 15 year old and an 11 year old it's Soo much help. I no longer have to ask for hubbies help for anything my 15 year old loves kids and loves helping out.
But I swear when ever he is trying to relax and the baby climbs on him he gets this irritated look, and I'm just like "Geezz, for future reference if we ever split get you someone with no kids!"
@mizzvuitton Omg that's ridiculous. Started a relationship with you and had kids but acts disgusted by them?! Smh but yet they want all the recognition in the world for just being in the room. The stuff mothers witness its definitely believable.
My son will be 9 and he will be a huge help as much as he can as well. I am thankful for the age difference lol
My husband and I are equals. We both work full time and make almost the same amount of money. We both take care of the kids and get up during the night. I guess I’m one of the lucky ones that gets a lot of help!
And that's awesome, there are many men who understand the need to work together especially involving children. It's great hearing and seeing that. and there are also many men who don't, especially just by the posts I read on this app. I'll never understand from a man's point of view but I know a womans and it makes a huge difference when there is help from your partner.
You definitely end up caring for 2 kids basically. The dad and the baby.... I see you are hanging in there tho. I hope you get some 'me time' more often, it makes a world of a difference even if just 2 or 3hrs a day.
@qd.sweet619, it’s physically draining to pick up his dads slack. I shouldn’t have to be mom and dad. But I will if I need to..
Not so much fathers but mothers who are not even around for there children are credited a lot or maybe it's just my inlaws that do it to hurt me