Just sitting in the nursery at 4:47am crying. Since we have been supplementing formula due to her losing weight I have to pump. I hate it. I am about ready to quit breastfeeding. I woke up 4 hours after pumping to my breasts engorged, which is what I wanted 24 hours ago. But now it hurts like someone is stabbing my breasts and nipples. My nipples hurt so bad that every suction makes me want to scream. I am bawling my eyes out. I cried for hours today thinking about not being able to nurse her anymore, but pumping f&$%ing kills me. I even tried to nurse her to relieve some of the pressure but her latch made me jump and I had to pull her off. Pumping makes my breasts hurt SO MUCH WORSE!! They told me at 2 weeks my breasts would be tougher, they told me at 2 weeks the pain would subside, lies. Its like the hospital all over again the non stop pain and tears. I want to quit breastfeeding right now. Happy effing birthday to me.
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Can you see a lactation consultant? Make sure your flanges are the correct size, they can also get you a prescription cream to help with the pain. It will get better, your body just needs to regulate. Try a nipple shield when you do get her to latch. Hand Express if it is too painful to pump until you get some help. ((Hugs))
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Man, I’ve been there. Mine began in the hospital and every time baby nursed I would cry and cry; it was excruciatingly painful. I wanted to give up too and I ended up having to stop nursing her for a couple days to give myself a break and i solely pumped. We started nursing again from there and just continued to power through the pain. It was really really hard. Honestly I feel like it was at least a month before we got the hang of it. Maybe even more. How is the setting on your pump? I always kept mine super low. Higher setting it felt like someone was ripping my boobs off! Definitely check your flanges too.
@nervousmommyca, wow, I can’t believe no one has mentioned it to you after all the pain you’re having. Something to look into for sure. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, the pain should not be as bad as you’re describing. Luckily my baby’s pediatrician made this clear to me very early on so we could figure out what needed to be done so I could continue nursing.
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@kirstin678, i saw over 6 different lactation consultants at the hospital and a dozens nurses not one person ever mentioned this
@nervousmommyca, that’s just baffling! Definitely talk to your baby’s pediatrician about this.
Happy Birthday! It could definitely be the flange size because I went through that when I first tried pumping. It was so painful to pump and I couldn’t get much milk at all. But as soon as a LC told me I needed a smaller flange size it fixed everything immediately. Hang in there mama, Fed is best so it’s ok that you had to start supplementing. Do what is best for you both.
Happy birthday mama!
Please check with a LC or even online, you might be using the wrong size flange when pumping because it should not make your nipples feel raw!
^wss
And happy birthday! Hope you find peace through the frustration ❤
Been there! First and foremost.. Fed is best. If you have to feed formula that is okay! If breastfeeding and pumping isn't working for you that's okay. It is ridiculously rough and emotional in a time when you already have a lot on your plate. 2. Check for nipple cracks. Try a nipple shield when feeding and call lactation or Dr and get some prescription nipple cream. Also check and see if baby or you have a yeast infection. This can make pain unbearable. 3. Lactation cookies are super tasty. Run to target buy a bag and treat yourself. It will help your milk supply and they are like a guilty pleasure that you can justify because it's for the baby lol... Sending love... Breastfeeding is like the seventh level of hell. My daughter lost so much weight I finally had to exclusively pump for 16 mths and then with my son I had to eventually give up and do formula because my postpartum anxiety got so much worse when I would pump and feed that I had to stop. I know how hard those choices are but you have to take care of you so you can take care of her
Awe well happy birthday. I really hope your day gets better. I do remember those days. When I thought I couldn’t go on any longer nursing. I didn’t pump much because he would take a bottle. Try a lactation consultant but also if u have to switch to formula that’s ok too.
Mama! My heart goes out to you! I can relate. Please get this book:
Breastfeeding Made Simple.
I have a great lactation consultant and even she couldn't help me like that book! It saved my bf'ing journey with my second baby and wish I'd of had it for my first I wish I could talk to you in person to give you a hug and encouragement. 2 weeks is not enough. Your baby is too tiny to eat without hurting you. Pumping sucks. They are giving you bad information and it takes longer than that. I wanted to give in at this point, too. But I was fortunate to have someone who encouraged me, gave me the book I recommended to you, and pushed me with the knowledge that it DOES get better. And it did! It took a couple months but as my friend who is a nurse told me, my baby needed time to get bigger and to learn how to eat.
Here's a tip:
Before pumping: use a warm compress and hand express to give some relief.
When you pump: use breast milk on your nipples and areolas before you get started and after you're done. The milk will moisturize the area.
Make sure to pump on the lowest setting possible and never more than 15 minutes at once. For at least the next 3 weeks pump anytime you believe your baby would naturally be needing to eat.
At 7 minutes use the let down button.
Pumping was the worse thing ever for me but I learned that it should never be painful. If it is painful there is something wrong. I always found it to be painful in the beginning and it was always uncomfortable but I learned how to do it in a way that it didn't cause me damage and I could tolerate. I hope you will be able to do the same or better.
I am sooooooo sorry you are going through this but have faith you and baby will be ok! If the day comes that you decide you no longer wish you bf then at least you will know you did you best!!!
And yes! HAPPY BIRTHDAY BEAUTIFUL MOMMY!!!! Today we celebrate you and the life God has given you. It is not without struggle but it is beautiful and blessed!!!! God bless you and keep you!!! Lay your troubles at His feet and he will carry you through!!!! Hugs, love, and prayers!!!!!!
This is the sweetest, most encouraging reply! ❤️ Thank you for so eloquently putting into words what I was trying to figure out how to say. And that book sounds fantastic!
@scruffy.nerf.herder Thank you! Thank you so much for your kindness. I never know if I am having the positive impact that I intend and only ever want to uplift and encourage our fellow mothers in need. That book is great even if you are a seasoned breastfeeding mom. I have turned back to it a few times since overcoming the initial difficulty and think it should come standard issue during pregnancy for every mother who is planning to nurse her child. I wish I had read it before the baby was born but it was given to me when she was a few days old. ☺️
Also take a warm shower and let the water run now and when you come out try pumping on the lower possible suction , or even try hand expressing
Can you see a lactation consultant? Make sure your flanges are the correct size, they can also get you a prescription cream to help with the pain. It will get better, your body just needs to regulate. Try a nipple shield when you do get her to latch. Hand Express if it is too painful to pump until you get some help. ((Hugs))
It does get easier after a few weeks. I gave it up after 2 months of breastfeeding and pumping. I was miserable as hell. I was getting little to no sleep with constant feeding and pumping. I was a wreck and the pain was enough. I switched over to bottle feeding and formula, happy to report baby and i are much happier. She has a happier mom that can actually be there for her instead of a zombie in pain. Breast feeding and pumping isn't for everyone, despite so many people shoving it down your throat. You've really gotta do what is best for you and baby. In my situation it didn't pan out, but i kept trying because of all the stupid pressure of "breast is best". There's so much pressure on us to do it. The shaming of formula needs to stop. Breastfeeding isn't for every mom for so many different reasons. It does get easier but don't be like me and beat yourself up over it if its not working out!!
Don't drive yourself crazy putting the pressure on yourself to nurse. She just needs to be fed and you need to make yourself a priority as well.
Though I breastfeed I rarely pump so I don't have much insight into that but the pain from nursing really does go away. They shouldn't have told you two weeks, though. Some people take a little longer. I'm sorry you're feeling so rough 😔❤️
Awe hun it will get better for me the pain was off and on for about a month then one day just stopped you will get through it I wanted badly to quit every time but so glad I didn’t
Did they check that your flanges are the correct size? I had to go up a size and it made it easier. I pumped for about 7 months and then my supply dried up. Is the pump adjustable? Can you turn the suction down at first when you are engorged?
It is hard. Try to fix what you can, but if you need to stop, don't beat yourself up over it. She is going to be strong, healthy and brilliant no matter how she is fed. <3
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. Breastfeeding is hard. If you're engorged try pumping until you feel a little better than have her latch. The first few weeks are really difficult but it will get better.
Happy birthday to you! 🎂🎉🎈I hope you enjoy your day!
Awe sweety it is so rough. I hope the pain eases for you.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Science!
My friend posted this on facebook last night and said her kids were asleep within minutes. It's a song that scientists created to help people fall asleep. I was skeptical but I thought what the hay, I'll try it out. I didn't bank on Dh falling asleep, but both him and lo were asleep by minute 2. And lo slept six straight hours. ?
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Mama! My heart goes out to you! I can relate. Please get this book:
Breastfeeding Made Simple.
I have a great lactation consultant and even she couldn't help me like that book! It saved my bf'ing journey with my second baby and wish I'd of had it for my first I wish I could talk to you in person to give you a hug and encouragement. 2 weeks is not enough. Your baby is too tiny to eat without hurting you. Pumping sucks. They are giving you bad information and it takes longer than that. I wanted to give in at this point, too. But I was fortunate to have someone who encouraged me, gave me the book I recommended to you, and pushed me with the knowledge that it DOES get better. And it did! It took a couple months but as my friend who is a nurse told me, my baby needed time to get bigger and to learn how to eat.
Here's a tip:
Before pumping: use a warm compress and hand express to give some relief.
When you pump: use breast milk on your nipples and areolas before you get started and after you're done. The milk will moisturize the area.
Make sure to pump on the lowest setting possible and never more than 15 minutes at once. For at least the next 3 weeks pump anytime you believe your baby would naturally be needing to eat.
At 7 minutes use the let down button.
Pumping was the worse thing ever for me but I learned that it should never be painful. If it is painful there is something wrong. I always found it to be painful in the beginning and it was always uncomfortable but I learned how to do it in a way that it didn't cause me damage and I could tolerate. I hope you will be able to do the same or better.
I am sooooooo sorry you are going through this but have faith you and baby will be ok! If the day comes that you decide you no longer wish you bf then at least you will know you did you best!!!
And yes! HAPPY BIRTHDAY BEAUTIFUL MOMMY!!!! Today we celebrate you and the life God has given you. It is not without struggle but it is beautiful and blessed!!!! God bless you and keep you!!! Lay your troubles at His feet and he will carry you through!!!! Hugs, love, and prayers!!!!!!