Psychology is so interesting to me. During my undergrad class of child abuse and prevention, we had a discussion about…

That's so true. I just recently started connecting with my half siblings and it's amazing how we share some of the same characteristics and traits all the while being raised in different homes. I believe there was a twin study done like this years ago where they separated the twins at birth to see how their upbringing molded who they were. Biology is definitely a huge factor

@miss_understood, it was triplets. There’s a movie about it. It’s actually a really terrible story.

@squishymommy1 I didn't hear about the triplets one! And I can't begin to imagine what happened 😫

Yup I believe that too. I'm wondering what causes some people, even after all the help and nurturing, to continue to remain the same. Is their brain chemistry so out of balance that nothing can be done or is it that the nurturing wasn't the right technique for them?

@miss_understood, different people/brains are different what might work for one individual may not work for another that’s why people are evaluated ect as we know and different techniques even different medication is used.

In my opinion I’d say it depends on the persons circumstances.

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For example take a pedophile who’s committed a crime, most would say for some one to do that they are mentally unwell so if they was medicated before hand this unlawful act would have been prevented however this person has committed the crime and now on medication, once he’s done his time he’s released and commits a crime of the same nature so does this mean the medication doesn’t work or is this due to his past? Again it’s a mixture of the both.

Another thing murder

Is murdering someone animal instincts or is it mental health?

@erincharlieconor I always thought murder was more of an animal instinct. Some people just have it in them (whatever IT is) and others don't. You always hear about those people that grow up in great nurturing families and one day, they suddenly kill someone and the family can't understand why it happened because they thought the person was normal and that they did everything right in their upbringing. I believe biology plays a big role in all of us. So when people try to say "being gay is a choice. It's what your exposed to" I dont believe that. Some people are naturally that way from birth. Some people can't even believe asexuality exists. Some will try to say " you just never been with the right person, you'll find someone that will make you want sex" meanwhile, asexuals have absolutely no desire to have sex and probably never will no matter what environment they're in. Some things are just wired

That's a good point because my grandmother had 8 kids and she always talked about how 4 of them were just always trouble. And of course she raised them all the same. But they never grew up to hurt anyone or be violent, they can just be angry and rude sometimes. So maybe the way she brought them up helped them to not get worse than they already were as they grew up.

@ashleybradford92 I'm not sure if she's open to it. I think my family and myself are so afraid to suggest it now because way back then, she got offended as if we were blaming her for her daughter's behavior. We just dont want her going down the wrong road later in life

@miss_understood that is when I start to blame the parent. While most moms do get way too much criticism when someone is honestly just trying to help - with behavior she knows is unacceptable that is just a recipe for disaster. Its not her fault entirely the child is this way, everyone needs help with something. Don't harm your child for your pride. I do hope she sees it soon enough hun Ill have them both in my thoughts.

@ashleybradford92 thank you! And yes there comes a point where you have to do what's best for your child and stop being in denial

So do you think a parent or a child's guardians can change a their natural biological chemistry of being "aggressive" by their parenting styles and maybe being more nurturing? Or do you think all efforts are lost since they are wired that way?

@miss_understood

I don't think a parent can change them completely. But I do think that their parenting choices can make things worse instead of better. Or vise versa.

@nerdymommyplus2 Completely agree