Anger is a very difficult emotion for anyone to handle so it definitely takes teaching. The most important thing is to model the behavior you want to see. So when he throws things and breaks them you are probably frustrated and/or angry. Use it as a teaching moment every time it happens & stay calm...just like you want him to stay calm. If you can't stay calm then it's okay ti seperate yourself until you can address it calmly.

I see that you're angry because (fill in the blank). It's ok to feel angry, but it's not okay to (fill in the blank...throw things, hit someone, etc.). When you feel angry you can (fill in the blank).

It's completely normal for kids to be out of control bc the emotions they experience are extremely strong feelings that they don't know how ti handle yet. Let him know his emotions are ok and everyone feels that way sometimes, even mommy & daddy. Then follow up with healthy ways to handle it. Sometimes validation of their feelings is all it takes. And a big hug to change the mood. It takes a lit of time and being consistent and he he will learn.

I use a when/then approach that seems to work. They can't do anything else until the toys are picked up. An example would be when they ask for a snack, for lunch, to go outside, play a game, etc. My response will be...Sure, when you're toys are all picked up, then you may have a snack. Or when your toys are all put away, then we can play a game. If they don't listen they don't get to do anything else until it's done. Sometimes they just go back to playing but they always eventually want something... even if it's just a drink. Anything they ask for my response is sure, after you pick up your toys.

@bluepenguin only problem is that when he gets angry he throws things. Just a few days ago he got angry because I took his little brothers pacifier away from him & grabbed his toy & threw it at out flat screen tv &broke it. That's what I hate, that he gets angry & throws whatever is close to him. I don't know how to control h I'll m when hes angry. He only listens to his dad

We don't do time out. However , lately I've been teaching him to throw garbage in the trash, rewarding with a high five or just praise. Then with toys, he won't really clean up when directed, until I ask if he needs some help, and he'll put his toys in the bins. Eating is a different story lol. Since I'm becoming more pregnant im tired of picking up things, so ive just been teaching and helping him.

Mines has been giving me hell so I can relate!