So my hubby has this female coworker he talks to a lot about the job and what not. He doesn’t hide her or anything but he’s pretty close with her and I don’t think he’s cheating AT ALL but if the roles where switched I know he wouldn’t like me being close with a MALE coworker -_- Opinions?
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If it's not ok for you it shouldn't be for him IMO. But if it doesn't bother you no need to make a big deal about it.
I’ve always been super close with male coworkers. My husband has never minded. What helped him was actually meeting them.
I’d definitely feel some type of way. But if you know he’s not cheating even emotionally and it’s just friendship/work then I wouldn’t really trip about it. You know? It depends on a lot but I used to be super close to some males at my old job, we worked together for years and it NEVER passed the boundaries as friends. One even became my best friend and still is. Have you thought about being friends with her too? Include yourself in their friendship a bit?
Well that’s the thing maybe she wouldn’t mind me being in their friendship but it’s really hard for me to make friends! Not in a bad way but I get awkward 😒 I guess? I don’t think her and I have anything in common anyway. Very frustrating! I’ve spoken to him about it and he says he’ll stop if I wanted him too but I don’t wanna be a bitch either so I just don’t know how to cope with it i guess
You should talk to him about it dear. Sometimes men are just brainless.
I guess it depends on the relationship/job. I work super closely with a PT, and we have to lift people all day, know what the other person will do before they do it so we don't get hurt, go on home assessments...we spend a lot of time together and have a good rapport. We text each other funny stuff (we are the same age and like the same things) but it is strictly platonic. My husband thinks he is a riot and I'm sure his wife enjoys my Alice in Chains memes. I think it just depends on a lot of factors.
Have you maybe talked to him and just let him know how you feel. I’d feel some type of way too but I would just be honest and I’m sure he’ll understand especially if you tell em if things were the other way around he’d feel some type of way too
Talk to him about it! Let him know how it makes you feel and if he wouldn’t like you doing it, why is he.
It’s different for everyone. My husband and I have both agreed we don’t have opposite sex friends unless they’re mutual and neither of us will text, call or hangout with the opposite sex alone.
I know way too many couples who have broken up, divorced or fight because of this very thing. It can lead to emotional cheating (texting about their marital problems, etc) or become physical. One little thing leads to another (in some cases). I know this first hand. 😕
He has to be strong and know where he stands with you and never give you any reason to doubt him. And some females can’t be trusted. Lol
The tricky part is if you think she’s attractive he may not and vice versa but also people can become attracted to someone’s personality. It’s very complicated. Set boundaries and neither of you cross them. He should be an open book 24/7 as well. Hopefully it’s a work only kind of thing.