Idk how to do this anymore How do you be a happy great mom and take care of yourself and maintain a good relationship…

I’m currently struggling with that too. You’re not alone. Just keep doing your best.

Stop setting yourself up for failure with unrealistic expectations. Your relationship won't always be great. Lots of times it will suck. You won't be a great mom every day the way you're thinking. You will make mistakes, you will drop the ball.

But as long as you get up everyday and try your very best, every thing will be okay.