Idk how to even feel about this. My step daughter lives with us because her mom abused her. Told us the other day she…

She's in counseling and they even said her best interest was with us. But thank you for this comment this is probably most helpful for me. Im just in alot of hurt right now emotionally.

I'm sure, perfectly understandable. Be mad at the true person doing the damage- the mom. The poor 16 year old just wants her mom to love her appropriately. As an outsider we know it probably won't happen, but at her age she's not going to be ready to give up on that. Show her more love.

I'll try

@householdceo, I understand. I would feel the same way as you. For the sake of her, I hope her mom did change for the better or she realizes quickly that her mom ain’t shit.

@householdceo her mom actually told her to cut herself and do it the right way. She's the one who was scared and wanting it supervised and we just wanted her out of a bad situation. Her mom is terrible wish I could explain but I can't she will never change.

@mojobebe thanks for understanding I just wanted someone to understand that I was really hurt and felt betrayed

idk im just very hurt and I'm angry. Don't come to me for something so serious and change your mind you know? Hell I'm confused.

she should be able to come to you for anything though. Don't you want that? Have you talked to your husband about being confused. I bet it is a hurtful situation when she wants to go back to who abused her

right now im so jacked up I don't want nothing to do with the whole situation. Court is 27th at this point I don't even want to go. She has come to me about everything why we tried to get her to stay but right now I don't care anymore. It's messed up to say but I want nothing to do with her right now. I could care less she comes to me about anything because this is what happened when she did. I've talk to her and hubs. My step daughter don't even care.

No you don't know her mom. She wants her back because she doesn't want us to have her. She never been much of a mom at all. She's sees her every week and won't bring her brother because she wants her to miss him. Yep she told her this Yes she does do thing like kiss ass to get her to come back that's what she does she is ass kiss it's pretty much her personality. Then she pulls her shit again. She does this. Also very manipulative person. She made out like the class was a joke missed time and all because hubs was there.

oh ok. Thank you for the insight. Maybe you should set her down just the 2 of you and explain this to her and that she deserves better and needs time to heal emotionally and that no one deserves to be treated like this. If you haven't already told her.

@blessedthrice17 I tried so did everyone else. I think it's because things aren't going like she wants right now here. She keeps getting in trouble for things we tell her not to do so she gets punished. Like 3 times now she's put inappropriate things on fb and social media. So we told her have your phone don't go on social media. Did it 3 times so now I can't even trust her with a phone. She used to go for walks and I'd tell her don't go here and there. She did it so I don't let her go. Shes not getting her way here so I think now that her mom is being nice she thinks things have changed there

@anicole3285 Idk anymore. Im hurt and that's all I feel. This didnt have even came about if it wasn't for her saying she beat on her and crap

I understand wat you're saying and I can see y you'd b hurt. You've put alot on the line to keep her safe and not she wants to go back to the person that hurt her. She has to realize 4 herself that her mom isn't gone changed. U no we try to give people the benefit of the doubt even when they hurt us. Jus still b there when she needs to talk cause I'm sure she'll need u. But she has to c her mom 4 who she is on her own. Good luck

thank u