Idk how to even feel about this. My step daughter lives with us because her mom abused her. Told us the other day she wants to go back to her moms. Annie is the one who came to us with these problems with her mom and we been in and out of court for a year. Her dad paid so much on a lawyer which I told him not too. Attended the parenting class they had her mom go to, we got her tutoring, made sure she stayed in school, make sure she never runs out of her meds, we make sure we are doing everything right so we can keep her and prove to the court we can stay on track. Just to get stabbed in the back. I feel so hurt and angry. I'm pretty sure it's only because her mom is kissing her ass right now so I tried to say that wont last but I cant change her mind and i'm not trying too. But shes the one who said her mom punched her, grabbed on her and calls her horrible things.
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She's in counseling and they even said her best interest was with us. But thank you for this comment this is probably most helpful for me. Im just in alot of hurt right now emotionally.
@householdceo I'm sure, perfectly understandable. Be mad at the true person doing the damage- the mom. The poor 16 year old just wants her mom to love her appropriately. As an outsider we know it probably won't happen, but at her age she's not going to be ready to give up on that. Show her more love.
As sad as the situation is, I’m not surprised she wants to go back to her mom. I know you feel betrayed but try to understand that she is still just a kid wanting to be loved by her momma. Outside looking in we know her mom is probably full of shit but she will need to realize it on her own.
@householdceo, I understand. I would feel the same way as you. For the sake of her, I hope her mom did change for the better or she realizes quickly that her mom ain’t shit.
@householdceo her mom actually told her to cut herself and do it the right way. She's the one who was scared and wanting it supervised and we just wanted her out of a bad situation. Her mom is terrible wish I could explain but I can't she will never change.
@mojobebe thanks for understanding I just wanted someone to understand that I was really hurt and felt betrayed
Hole old is she? I mean that is her mom and she might be missing her. Especially if she s so young. She probably still loves her mom and misses her. Especially if shes really young probably can't grasp it. I have a friend who's a step mother. Or she was. And the kids who almost teens and wanted to go to their moms even though she basically ignores them calls them names and make them sleep on the couch when they go over instead of having their own room at their mothers place. And my friend couldn't understand why they want to go over there. But it's their mother. Probably all they want is her attention and to be in her presence. Then something horrible happened and the father got put in prison. The kids moved in with their mother and now doesn't even talk to their mother. It's a horrible situation. But don't know why things happen sometimes. Have you tryed talking with your step child about it or your husband to see if he should talk to his daughter to figure out what's going on with her
@anicole3285 idk im just very hurt and I'm angry. Don't come to me for something so serious and change your mind you know? Hell I'm confused.
@householdceo she should be able to come to you for anything though. Don't you want that? Have you talked to your husband about being confused. I bet it is a hurtful situation when she wants to go back to who abused her
@anicole3285 right now im so jacked up I don't want nothing to do with the whole situation. Court is 27th at this point I don't even want to go. She has come to me about everything why we tried to get her to stay but right now I don't care anymore. It's messed up to say but I want nothing to do with her right now. I could care less she comes to me about anything because this is what happened when she did. I've talk to her and hubs. My step daughter don't even care.
🤔 maybe she feels love for her mother and thinks she has changed since she got help. People can change for the good. As far as her mom kissing her ass, I think that is a shrud statement because if her mom is trying to show her love and restore their relationship that is a blessing not kissing her ass.
No you don't know her mom. She wants her back because she doesn't want us to have her. She never been much of a mom at all. She's sees her every week and won't bring her brother because she wants her to miss him. Yep she told her this Yes she does do thing like kiss ass to get her to come back that's what she does she is ass kiss it's pretty much her personality. Then she pulls her shit again. She does this. Also very manipulative person. She made out like the class was a joke missed time and all because hubs was there.
@householdceo oh ok. Thank you for the insight. Maybe you should set her down just the 2 of you and explain this to her and that she deserves better and needs time to heal emotionally and that no one deserves to be treated like this. If you haven't already told her.
@blessedthrice17 I tried so did everyone else. I think it's because things aren't going like she wants right now here. She keeps getting in trouble for things we tell her not to do so she gets punished. Like 3 times now she's put inappropriate things on fb and social media. So we told her have your phone don't go on social media. Did it 3 times so now I can't even trust her with a phone. She used to go for walks and I'd tell her don't go here and there. She did it so I don't let her go. Shes not getting her way here so I think now that her mom is being nice she thinks things have changed there
@anicole3285 Idk anymore. Im hurt and that's all I feel. This didnt have even came about if it wasn't for her saying she beat on her and crap
@householdceo I understand wat you're saying and I can see y you'd b hurt. You've put alot on the line to keep her safe and not she wants to go back to the person that hurt her. She has to realize 4 herself that her mom isn't gone changed. U no we try to give people the benefit of the doubt even when they hurt us. Jus still b there when she needs to talk cause I'm sure she'll need u. But she has to c her mom 4 who she is on her own. Good luck
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Don't take it personally, its incredibly heart breaking for her. At 16, they can't process that their mom can be so toxic. She's going to long for that love and do whatever it takes to earn it. It took my husband until he was 45 to see how abusive and harmful his mom was. He was always trying to earn her love and make her happy.
Get her into counseling and just continue to be there for her. One day she will realize what real love, unconditional love is. She needs you.